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Bit of a dilemma

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lemonmousse · 07/03/2011 20:32

Not sure whether this is the place to post this but it relates to (almost) teenagers so here goes...

DD1 (12) brought some friends home after school today and they were having a good laugh telling me all about the other kids in their class - I was joking along with them asking who 'fancied' who and stuff - just generally joining in.

They started to talk about one particular girl who they said 'is always making things up' and telling me some of the stories she tells. One of them went on to say that this girl even said that 'her Dad sometimes rapes her'Shock.

I was pretty gobsmacked by this and must have shown it but they were adamant that it's just another of her made up stories and they don't believe a word she says.

I can't stop thinking about this and I'm now wondering if this girl (who I've never met and don't know from Adam)is telling the tales she does to try to draw attention to the fact that she really IS being abused by her Dad.

I'm toying with the idea of ringing the school and asking to speak to the Head of Year about it. Maybe I'm reading more into it than I should but I'm just not entirely happy with doing nothing. What do other MN's think?

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atswimtwolengths · 07/03/2011 21:00

I would DEFINITELY call the Head of Year.

Best case scenario it's not happening, but then her poor father having those things said about him.

Worst case scenario it is happening, and she is desperately trying to tell someone.

PixieOnaLeaf · 07/03/2011 21:19

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blinder · 07/03/2011 21:26

I agree you should ring the Head of Year. The worst outcome is that you embarrass the girl. The best is that you help to stop sexual abuse.

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lemonmousse · 07/03/2011 21:47

Thanks everyone - I'll call tomorrow.

PixieOnaleaf - I know what you're saying about 'responsibilty' - I work in a school (Primary) and have attended several Child Protection courses. I always thought that if a child came to me with an allegation I would act on it without hesitation and here I am dithering about this one!

I suppose because I've been given this info second hand by 3 'reliable' 12 year olds that it's cast a bit of doubt in my mind.

I'm sure that DD's Head of Year will tread very carefully with this one and the girl won't be made to feel embarrassed. They may already be aware - but you are ALL right - I need to do it.

Thanks for the nudge everyone!

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PixieOnaLeaf · 07/03/2011 21:55

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atswimtwolengths · 07/03/2011 22:09

Well, nobody needs worry about it except her father! They are terrible accusations if not true, just as they are terrible if true.

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lemonmousse · 08/03/2011 12:57

Well, I've made the call - passed on what I was told. Head of Year says I have done the right thing whatever the outcome so I feel a bit happier now.

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PixieOnaLeaf · 08/03/2011 13:03

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lemonmousse · 08/03/2011 13:18

Hope so Pixie. That will probably be the last I'll hear of it - but far better to report a suspicion than dismiss it as tale telling.

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