Silly mummy; stupid teenager <sigh>

[KatyMac]

D (not DD) is being a bit of an idiot

She is not taking her asthma medication properly

We have clearly stated we expect her to do this; it is not negotiable

But yet again she didn't take it tonight or this morning & there were 3 evening tablet in the bottom of her bag where she popped them out of the blister pack so she could 'show' us that she had taken it

I had a real temper tantrum & said club or guides tomorrow

So do I carry through or back down or give up?

Anyone?

bloody bloody teenagers. no personal experiencebut imagine i's a bit like a control/rebellion thing.

i'll bet she doesn't even know why she won't take them either?

does she know anyone else with the same thing? or is there any on-line support stuff just for her?

I don't know

She has to take her medication

Aaarrrrggggghhhhh!!!!!

Make her do it in front of you, she gets nothing at all whatsoever that she wants (and they always want something) until she has taken them in front of you.

No point getting mad and upset. Just be firm and tell her repeat in monotone voice.

Follow through with threats/punishments or there's no point making them.

I feel for you-I'm going through teen stuff with dd just now, but fortunately not things which can impact on her health (just my sanity!)

I would ask her to explain her reasons for not wanting to take them as well as making her take them. She might be more willing if you listen to her side.

take your tabs
in front of adult
adult will sign it off on sheet on fridge for youin case you start saying "daddy saw me take it" when daddy has left for the day
no guides this week
we will review it next week in case you have grown up a bit in the meantime
(all teenagers are incompetent 9 year olds - I haven't changed my mind from the other thread on the go this eve)

I dunna know Pixie - it seems to be 'can't be bothered' thing of all

I like signing it off (we can do it in her peak flow book am & pm) yep it's Singulair

Blasted child

No Guides definitely

Bugger - I do talk to her all the bloody time

We have told the consultant & the asthma nurse; I think this started last year during the 'problems'

Zero tolerance, writing it down, treats & carrying them through

I think initially, you need to make sure she takes them, by handing them to her with a glass of water. Tell her, if she can't be trusted to be a young adult, then you will have to monitor her.

Then, I would wait for a moment when she is in a good, friendly mood, before talking to her sensibly about it. I find with my teenager, the best and most contructive conversations are when we are in the car (captive audience!) and with the prospect of spending money on her. I don't mean, making a plan to buy her something, but if you need to get her anything and you can turn it into a bit of a girlie session, all the better - ykwim?

There's no point in labouring the point to a teenager, unless they are in that grown up/reasonable zone imho! It'll just end up in a huge row and that won't achieve anything.

Good luck!

I guess

I use the trapped in a car method too!!

It's perfect Katy!

DD loves a shopping trip and there's no way she'd not listen to me and have constructive conversation, if it means I'll turn the car around and go home again!

DH hs agreed our action plan

ah, you're GOOOOOOOOD at this
I like

that's a great idea