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laptop ban - how long?

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penguin73 · 07/03/2011 18:06

DS set up a FB acct behind our backs and has lied about it for 2 years. How long would you ban laptop use (except school work) for? DH and I having big arguments about it. Any other effective sanctions anyone can recommend please?

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GypsyMoth · 07/03/2011 18:12

how old is he?

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penguin73 · 07/03/2011 18:14

Now 14, set it up at 12 and has lied a number of times since about having one.

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MADABOUTTHEBOY2000 · 11/03/2011 16:50

can you after a week ban as he shouldnt have lied let him have a fb account check his safety settings and keep his password so you can when you feel like it now and again check out what sort of things hes doing.
hes actually old enough according to fb at 13 to have an account many many people do let their dc's have them a lot earlier but of course thats a totally individual PO and if you have said NO he deffinately shouldnt have done but i think a lot of its peer pressure all his mates will be on there , the other thing is as they become teens without FB and MSN they will rack you up a massive phone bill so but once again its your choice of course but worth remembering if he thinks your being too strict he may well rebel behind your back, thats teens for you sadly hope it works out okay

popflos · 13/03/2011 14:46

i think get to the bottom of why he lied, or why you dont want him to have one, or what he does with it,

he should have one, but for the right reasons. and if you can build an open and honest relationship there is no need for lying. i made my kids be my facebook friend so i could see what they were up to, its mostly drivel, they dont have anything to hide.

yasminkate · 13/03/2011 16:18

I'd do a short ban for the lying and get to the bottom of why he did it.

The most important piece of information I was ever given about FB was that the 'deal' was they show you their friend list and if they have never met the person they are friends with face to face they get deleted. Both of mine have been fine with this.

Niceguy2 · 14/03/2011 11:06

At that age, you really need to let him have a facebook account.

As you've found out, banning him is not effective and next time he'll just hide it more. My son secretly created one and he's only 9!

It's better to have it out in the open and monitor their activity than ban it and drive it underground.

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