Had a horrible half term , and would appreciate some advice! Not sure if I am overreacting as I am definitely a 'worst case scenario ' sort of person. My Ds is 13 year 8 at an all boys school. He is very sporty , does well academically and has a wide circle of friends, with some lovely ' best friends ' that he has known since primary.in the last 5 months he has hit puberty with a bang!
We have always had a really good relationship and he is a very loving boy, but the last few months have been quite testing!!
Being in an all boys school he obviously isn't with girls but since primary school he has had a lot of girls attention.
Recently ( last four months) he has created a facebook account, which most of his peers also have and spent a lot of time on it. I have been on his account and seen that he is adding girls he does not know from the
all girls school in our area.
At the beginning of half term we noticed he was texting a girl a lot.
He had a sleepover at one of his best friends and the following day told me he wanted to meet this friend in a local park ( close to the friends home, but not in walking distance to ours).
I agreed I would drop him off. However when we arrived the friend was not there. Ds told me he had text him and he had said he was on his way, I said I would wait, he said no go! I said I was not happy leaving until the friend had arrived, but he started to get very upset, he finally admitted he was meeting a group of girls as well as the friend. I was annoyed he had lied, but he assured me then friend was meeting later.
I left when the girls arrived, and rang him two hrs later to ask when he wanted to be picked up and see if the friend was there. He said he was, but I didn't believe him so asked to speak to the friend. He then pretended to be his friend!!!! Obviously I knew the sound of my own sons voice ( who sounds nothing like his friend!!). I was very angry and said I was coming to get him.
After a long conversation about trust and telling the truth he promised he would not lie about who he was meeting up with again.
Fast forward three days later he went to the cinema with the same friend (we dropped them off). It was only later when my dd saw on her facebook that he had met up with the same girls. When confronted by my dd he did admit to this.
It's not that I mind him spending time with girls, that is a normal part of growing up, but this girl seems very sexually aware, and has had an older long term boyfriend. This boy has now contacted Ds via facebook and has made some very nasty remarks to him. I have now confiscated his phone so he cannot continually text and facebook. Sorry this is so long but I would appreciate some advice.