WWYD - Would you tell?

[Niceguy2]

Hi all

I have a DD(14). On the whole she's very mature and sensible. This half term she's been going out a lot with her best friend rather than the usual bedroom dwelling recluse I usually see. Even getting the bus rather than asking for dad's taxi service.

Anyway, i peeked at her Facebook account last night after she left herself logged in and yes...she's got herself a BF.

Now as much as the father in me thinks "AAAHHHH!", i know its something I have to come to terms with sooner or later.

However, it appears in the emails with her friends that her best friends BF is a bit of a loser and is pressuring her friend to have sex. So far, my DD and her other friend have rallied around and trying to find ways to make her see what he's like, but seemingly to no avail.

So WWYD? Would you tell the other parents? Part of me thinks that would cause a HUGE ruckus but at the same time, if it were my DD under pressure, I'd hope a parent would tell me so I could deal with it.

Perhaps have a chatbwith your Dd first ?
She does not need to know you have bee checking up on her..
Do you know the gir?
If your Dd has a bf then you might need to have a bit of a chat anyway about sex etc.

I do know the girl and she's very easily led. Someone who is always clamouring to be the centre of attention and always needs a lot of validation. So unlike my DD who has already seen through him (she even said in a message that boys will say anything to get you to sleep with them), it may work on her best friend.

DD's mum has apparently already done the sex talk a while back and my current partner says I tend to be a bit confrontational/direct when trying to talk to DD. So might let my partner have a word if she can be more subtle than me.

I do trust my DD. She's very sensible and mature for her age. I know her time will come and I must deal but right now, its her friend I am worried about. She's very immature.

if you think your partner might get a bit of a better reception then i would go with that. would your DD talk to your partner about this?

Have a chatbwith dds mum about it maybe you can come up with a plan.

If you have read it all on FB then I imagine her parents would have too.