Sons Horrible (now ex) girlfriend

[overthehillmum]

My DS broke up with his girlfriend of 2 years, she is quite hormonal nuts and there has been numerous incidents over the past 2 years, he decided to finish it last week, she turns up at our door, demanding to see him at 11pm at night, won't go away, told me I was a fat mess, an embarrassment, a state, and no wonder he had turned out the way he was!!! I am absolutely devastated at a 18 year old screaming abuse at me. I had to phone the police to come and get her away, she was really abusive, he is 18 too, I can only hope that this is it and he won't go back, he admitted that for the past two years he has been scared into going back to her because she was threatening to come up to me and do what she did.....I am still really upset, I cant believe that an 18 year old girl can devastate me like that, suppose I have been lucky with my kids, they are quite nice to me!!! Suppose I am just looking for some sympathy....I am really upset by this, he says that he will never go back with her but I am worried sick that they will make up, I don't think I could ever look at her again.

That is disgraceful behaviour and I'm sorry you've been subjected to that. She sounds desperate and if your son's got any sense he'll stay well away. Quite frankly, if he's got any respect for you at all (or for himself) he'll stay away. I hope he does.

good job he dumped he really!

She's deranged. I'd persuade him to move away.

FFS.
The dregs of this green and pleasant land never disappoint eh?

Thanks Besom, he has said that he won't be back with her, he was upstairs, holding my DD back from coming downstairs to speak to her sort her out , I had said to him to stay up there out the way, I think I am just obsessing about it because she really hit a nerve with me, I have been in tears again tonight, the police were lovely tho, I totally apologised to them for bringing them out but she wouldn't go away, she was just mad!! Teenagers are such a worry.

How awful for you.

She will regret doing this to you for the rest of her life.

Poor you - that must have been horrible.

Sounds like your son is best shot of her.

Don't dwell on what slingshots a vindictive teenager have sent your way, though, as difficult as that may be.

I'd look into getting a restraining order on her. What a chav.

She hasn't been in touch with DS since, I think the police must have had a talk with her, they gave DS a number to phone if she turned up again and said it would be a form of domestic abuse, she is tiny and he is 6ft, he was worried that she would attack him and then claim he had assaulted her...if she comes near again I am going to see about a restraining order, he told me that he has been scared to break up with her, it was him that told me to phone the police as she was shouting outside the house and going round the back peering in...just madness...I think I am just totally shocked that someone can act like this, and she was still trying to get him to come outside and talk to her.....after all that...by'd the way, her mum was in a car outside whilst this was all going on...absolutely unbelievable...

absolutely unbelievable....

sounds like your son wont be getting back with her anyway, but if he does, she can be banned from your home.

I'd have had her up against the wall by the throat

But you're probably a much nicer person than I am, OP

Same here, MadaboutQuavers,.. I wouldn't be worried about her coming back if she had done that to me.
Mind you - OP did the right thing and let the Police handle it.

Madaboutquavers: I am normally quite an upfront person, I never thought I would just accept something like that, I think I was just so shocked, and I did think that she was trying to get a reaction out my son to get him down so she could "get him", looking back I don't know why I didn't at least do like Lockets said and my come back would have been I am fat and forty, whats your excuse!!! My sister was absolutely furious, she wanted to know why I hadn't phoned her, she would have been here in 15 mins, but she would have dragged her down the drive....and I was trying to keep things calm, the neighbours curtains were twitching...!!

I am positive he won't get back with her now, he seems a lot happier and lighter since it happened, new rule in the house, you are not allowed to date anyone that is certifiable...