What did you do for your dc 18th?

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nightime · 21/02/2011 21:50

I feel a bit shit as my dd turns 18 next week, She is having a meal with her friends that night then I am taking her for a meal at the weekend,

I am paying for her to have a tattoo on her birthday which is sometning she has wanted for the last 3 years and ive always said I would pay for once she was 18.

Do you think this is enough from me? I worry that she may be missing out but I can't match the parties and stuff some of her friends have lined up for their birthdays.

She is a lovely girl and knows the situation and never complains but I just wonder if she really is happy or is just pretending cos she doesnt want me to feel guilty.

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MedusaIsHavingABadHairDay · 22/02/2011 11:07

Well my DS turns 18 in 2 weeks and we haven't anything amazing planned DH is going to take him karting with a couple of mates as he really fancies it (one of those race circuits) and he will have some cash from us but that's it, really.

Last year I got my DD a bracelet for her 18th and some money ; she went out for a meal with her friends, but as DS has just been dumped by his girlfriend he's really down and doesn't want to do that:(

I'm a bit at major events for birthdays.. fine if you have the finances and the desire to do major bashes but so far my DC have been content with it being simply a birthday:)

someonesgotthenameichose · 22/02/2011 16:03

My dd had hers a couple of weeks ago.
Got her a ring and she chose clothes
Went for a family meal to Bella Italia with vouchers
She had went clubbing for the first time officially of age with mates - one night college mates, other night sports team mates

lemonmousse · 22/02/2011 16:30

DS was 18 last November - I suggested a family party at home with some of his mawn with his mates invited but he didn't want that. He went out on the town with his mates from college.

Don't think it's such a big thing as it used to be when I was 18 - I did make him a cake though and we bought him a good camera.

lemonmousse · 22/02/2011 16:31

Dunno wher that 'mawn' came from? LOL then I am typing on DD's netbook.......

JemAndTheHolograms · 23/02/2011 19:12

My DSD turned 18 last September. We had already bought her a Creamfields ticket that she had been to in August. We gave her money, and bought her new GHDs (the pink breast cancer ones). We went out for a meal, her family and friends. On the night she ended up with 3 birthday cakes. One we had gotten her, one her grandparents (maternal) had gotten her and another her friends had gotten her. After the meal she went off clubbing with her friends whilst DH and I had the pleasure of lugging all her presents and her cakes home.

mumeeee · 24/02/2011 22:32

I have girls, I took all 3 of them to London for a couple of days and we did shopping and went to a musical. I also offere to take a frien, 2 of them took me up on this and the other one just wanted it to be me and her.
They organised a meal out with thier friends themselves.

overthehillmum · 24/02/2011 23:44

For my kids 18ths I contributed towards their first years car insurance, neither of them wanted anything special, I did have a family dinner for my dd but ds didn't want anything.

haggis01 · 26/02/2011 18:36

I think what you are doing is fine. My DD and her friends have really not done anything special - it doesn't seem to be a big deal. My DD went out with some mates ice skating and for a pizza. We had small party at home and bought her a camera ( and paid towards an expensive school trip). I offered more things - booking a club, day trip to Paris etc but she understood our situation and really did not want us to go OTT. Sounds like your Dc is the same.

Tortington · 26/02/2011 18:43

my twins are eighteen next week too. they are each getting a moby and dh and i are taking them to the pub

i think what you're doign is fine

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