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Would I be out of order to

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sharbie · 20/02/2011 22:36

ring my dss' college to see how he's doing?

do you think this would be ok?he's 16 and started last september.

i hardly ever see him doing any work, doesn't really communicate with me about how he's getting on (shrugs etc) and i have a feeling he may be bunking off from time to time.

would the college contact me if there was a major problem??

thanks Smile

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Maryz · 20/02/2011 22:59

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sharbie · 20/02/2011 23:03

thanks maryz - yes you are right - i think i will call as i don't want the shock in june. Smile

think there has only been 1 parents eve so far (dad went) but i don't think he keeps us fully informed of these things....

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gracehedley · 20/02/2011 23:04

I would (and often do) email his tutors/teachers and tell them my concerns. They are always helpful in their replies. Parents evenings are organised, but my son does not trouble himself to tell me about them. And usually your instincts are going to be right - mine were - same concerns, same lack of communication. Good luck Smile

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sharbie · 20/02/2011 23:06

thanks grace - i didn't want to go ahead if i was going to tread on anyones toes/be the only parent to do this, but i think i will.

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sharbie · 20/02/2011 23:07

thanks tsc but easier said than done at this age Smile

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gracehedley · 20/02/2011 23:10

I have done it SO many times! I don't worry any more about being a nuisance - they do need to communicate with us - you have to put your childs education above all those thoughts of treading on their toes etc, though I definitely know what you mean. And lots of other parents do it too. Sometimes I don't even know the names of the teachers or their email address, and just send an email to the general enquiries address, asking them to forward it to the relevant member of staff - it always works.

Tortington · 20/02/2011 23:20

god iwas thinking about doing this with my daughter aged 17 - shes going to be 1 in a matter of weeks and i've been chanting 'custy let go, let go'

it is a pickle

Tortington · 20/02/2011 23:20

eighteen obviously

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sharbie · 20/02/2011 23:23

i know custy me too - let him do it he'll learn etc etc
trouble is i am not good at standing by Smile good to know this will go on to at least 18 then.

tsc i swear i bloody learnt more of that gcse syllabus than he did.

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BooyFuckingHoo · 20/02/2011 23:25

when i was at college at 16 9so 9 years ago) my mum still attended parent/tutor meetings so i dont think it would be wrong of you to enquire if you are concerned.

Maryz · 20/02/2011 23:28

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sharbie · 20/02/2011 23:34

ha ha mary Smile i know exactly what you mean - maybe me talking to college will be his wake up call.he is due one.

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