Hi all :)
I'm currently waiting for a formal diagnosis for my DS for a Social Communication Disorder, probably Aspergers. I've known that things have needed looking into for a very long time but it has difficult to get professionals to take me seriously/do anything about it :( Hence a rather late diagnosis as he is now 13 (14 in April).
He has shown behavioural problems since about 16 months old. I separated from his dad when he was 7 months old and behaviour was often put down to contact visits unsettling him. But I wasn't convinced. 
We now have nothing to do with his dad and (without going into too much detail) as my DS got older I found out that there had been abuse from his father. DS still showed behavioural problems but it was then put down to what had happened with his dad. I agree that this will have affected him but still felt it wasn't as black and white as that. Now I finally have GP, school and Paediatrician on side, I feel we can finally get somewhere :)
I would love to hear from any mums who have similar issues and how they deal with them.
DS gets frustrated with himself very easily if he can't do something or if he doesn't understand something. He can have violent outburts (bedroom wall has anumber of holes in and numerous things have been broken in the house) and this violence is sometimes directed at me, although not as often as it used to be. He also lies a lot and has a bad memory (for things I ask him to do!) and he often misunderstands what I'm saying.
Thanks in advance for your replies :o