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I joined Facebook

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Rach1938 · 13/02/2011 18:42

I finally joined facebook and was horrified to see what sort of violent filth my teenage son was posting. He thinks I'm pretty thick at IT (true) but talk of F*ing his grandmother and smashing babies faces in is frightening me to death. Have I produced a psychopath?
I haven't challenged him with it, which was my first instinct, as it'll only drive it underground. What do I do? - stop him seeing his friends, keep him home at weekends, get him analised? Help!

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80sMum · 13/02/2011 18:44

How can you see what he's posting? has he accepted you as a 'friend'? If he has, then surely he knows you're looking at his posts?

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Rach1938 · 13/02/2011 18:59

You are quite right
Told you I was thick as far as computers go - yes he must have! I remember I put most of my family down as 'friends' not really knowing what it was all about at the time.

So this would assume he doesn't find anything wrong in what he's posting? I feel so out of touch - do they all talk like this these days? The friends I've met seem very polite, if a bit boisterous, and haven't used this kind of language in my hearing. I know they smoke and drink and I think I've talked him out of the smoking but as he stays out all night I assume he's drinking rather heavily.
Another point - where does he get the money - not from me or my dh.

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maryz · 13/02/2011 19:16

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sharon2609 · 14/02/2011 16:33

Face book should be banned....root of all evil where kids are concerned

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Rach1938 · 14/02/2011 21:31

Can't see why its not monitored in some way - some chatrooms blank out words with things like 'sex' in them - like Middlesex - so why not all the Fs and Cs and things? Can't be beyond the technology can it?

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usualsuspect · 14/02/2011 21:33

How old is he?

RoseAnn · 15/02/2011 22:23

i no this sounds odd but its what young teenage boys find funny these days........... havent you ever seen familey guy south park or american dad???

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Rach1938 · 16/02/2011 14:39

He's 16. and No I haven't watched any of those programmes, do you watch them regularly?

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mamadiva · 16/02/2011 15:04

I watch all of those programs and I have to say that I don't think they are supposed to be taken in any way seriously... Hmm

FWIW my brother is 16 and although he is not anywhere near being an angel he would never post anything like that BUT he does often post things about girls he fancies (think it's Rihanna at the moment) which could come across quite shocking but realoly it's just boys being boys.

I think you should have a sit down with him and explain that you don't like what you saw and if he is using your family computer (?) then he will no longer be allowed to because if he goes around adding people and filth like this then a)it looks very bad on him and b)people can easily hack your computer through facebook if you know how.

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