All weekend I have been encouraging my 15 yr old son to tidy up his room. It is truly disgusting! All weekend (in between me giving him money to go to the cinema with his friends etc ) he has been telling me he only has to finish off with a hoover etc. I went into speak to him and he clearly has done absolutely nothing at all. I am completely infuriated. Not only is he ignoring me, he is also lying. I shouted "you are a liar" and stormed out of his room. He then barricaded his door and started crying that he was "terrified" of me! This is utterly ridiculous, I treat him probably with more respect and tolerance than he deserves at times and I am not, I promise, a scary person in any way, have never hit my children or been aggressive towards them. If anything his dad gets more angry than I do. I am really upset now. I tried to talk to him and he's claiming that "everything is shit" ( he looked quite relaxed and happy on his laptop when I stupidly went into his room ) and that I think he's "shit and rubbish". Obviously I don't and I love him dearly. I am really really hurt by all this and wonder where I went wrong. There is no evidence, in case you wonder, that he is depressed either.