DD is heartbroken

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Dd is 16 and has just broken up with her boyfriend of 2 years. He is a lovely lad, I'll miss him. I feel for her she's spent all day crying in her room. Don't know what I can do to ease her pain.

just be there and listen if she wants to talk ..gently encourage her to go out with her friends or invite her friends over

Chocolate? A trip out somewhere to take her mind off it? Shopping for something nice?Poor girl, wouldn't want to be that age again

Poor, poor thing. Do you know why they broke up? Is she talking much? Can you take her up a hot chocolate and lie on her bed with her, stroke her hair, let her talk things through?

I think all you can do is pour in huge amounts of love and compassion and let her know you understand.

Perhaps, when the worst of the initial pain starts to pass, you could plan some girly treats together - manicures/ lunch/ shopping/ art gallery - doesn't have to be mega-bucks, whatever the budget permits?

I'm so sorry - this must be so hard for you on two counts - hard to see your daughter heart-broken - but you must be sad too. I'm sure you'd become fond of him over the last two years, I guess you'll miss him too.

I do feel for you and your daughter. I'm dreading this to be honest.

Thanks for the advice... yes we've had lots of cuddles. It's heartbreaking listening to her crying. I don't know why they broke up, I think they've drifted apart & she can be unpleasant to him at times. She's just got to get through it.

Gah. First heart break :( I was 16 as well . It sounds like you're doing a great job just being there and taking her upset seriously. I'm sure I don't need to tell you that teenage girls can be a bit dramatic, so keep an eye on any warning signs of 'Romeo and Juliet'-esque episodes. My parents totally trivialised my upset, and looking back of course I was OTT and childish but at the time it was so incredibly painful.