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How do you make a teen wear their cycle helmet and keep it on??

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ScreamEagle · 12/10/2005 14:18

dd reckons it's not cool to wear a helmet, so she sets off from home with it on, but before she gets to the end of the road she takes it off. She says other kids point and laugh at her.

A relative of mine saw her without it twice and alerted us - on those occasions we read her the riot act, said how cool will you look lying on a mortuary slab? etc and she promised she would wear it all the way to and from school.

But dh has spied on her twice and both times she has not been wearing her helmet on the way home. When confronted about it she says she was just about to put it on at the very moment he saw her! Even though at that point she was more than half way home!

School is about 3 miles away, we can't afford the bus and it's too far to walk in a reasonable time even though she wants to walk. That would however mean an hour's walk each way which I think is unreasonable.

I have threatened to wait outside the school tonight and if I see her without it I will get out of the car and make her put it on. The choice is clear to me - she overcomes her fear of what her friends will think of her with a helmet on or I embarrass her in front of them.

Is this too harsh? How can I persuade her to keep it on?

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foxinsocks · 12/10/2005 14:26

I don't think that's too harsh

Do you think she will continue wearing it once you stop waiting for her outside school? If she wants to walk, maybe you should let her (even if it takes an hour) - she might then see the point of the bike!

ScreamEagle · 12/10/2005 14:31

She has walked a couple of times - i let her in the hope that she would be put off but it didn't work. I don't want her walking home in the dark though especially if she stays at an after school club and won't be getting home til almost 6pm.

No I don't think she will keep it on once she realises we are not checking up on her.

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SoupDragon · 12/10/2005 14:33

Not harsh at all. My dad used to cycle alot in his youth (ie before helmets!) and lost a friend because she fell off her bike and hit her head on the kerb.

Better to be embarrassed than dead and this is what she should say to her friends.

JoolsToo · 12/10/2005 14:33

superglue?

auntymandy · 12/10/2005 14:34

I have tried everything with my 14 year old, but he wont. I have threatened to take away the bike. DX doesnt encourage him to wear it. I feel stuck

SoupDragon · 12/10/2005 14:35

Was it Coddy's son or Twiglett's who wouldn't take his bike helmet off? Admittedly they were much much younger but maybe they have some tips

foxinsocks · 12/10/2005 14:36

yes, walking not a good idea in the dark.

Have you got a fire station/police station near you? When I was about that age, we got a talk from the local fire brigade - they explained how they often have to go to road crashes to cut people out etc. and they explained what they saw. Never again did I travel without my helmet on!

ScreamEagle · 12/10/2005 14:39

I have tried shock tactics, described in gruesome detail what could happen if she was hit by a car and hit her head. Also have asked how does she think we would feel if we had to come and identify her body on a slab and if she were wearing a helmet she may have survived?

Hasn't worked.

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foxinsocks · 12/10/2005 14:45

the problem is she doesn't really care enough about the bike to be bothered whether she has it or not (always the most effective punishment - to just not let them have the bike!).

What does she really enjoy doing? Could you dock her pocket money or tell her she can't have friends round? - also remind her that you and dh and your relative will all be looking out for her.

ScreamEagle · 12/10/2005 14:53

fox - you're right she actually would love it if I banned the bike, she gets what she wants then.

She knows she will be seen on the way to school but still she does it. She really has developed a can't-be-bothered-what-you-lot-think attitude.

It doesn't seem to bother her if I say she can't go to town either - nothing seems to have an effect.

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