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problem in secondary school

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lucalex · 22/01/2011 00:35

Hi, I'm new hereand I really need some advice on how to sort this:

We have moved from the UK to france in April, my son L is 12 and goes to the local secondary. In May/June he "went out" in the loose sense with this girl A, who broke it up in August . In September they ended up in the same class but it wasn't a problem till not long ago.
I had been told by my son that this girl was telling him stuff Like: " who's stinking ..Oh it's L" and "go back to your country" o ..I said to L not to rise to it, she was just a silly girl and ignoring her was the best to do..
Till tuesday, they had a practice of volleyball and L got the ball on A's nose, which for the school was an accident.
At night, her dad comes to the house saying that L had repeatedly harrassed her daughter and smashed the ball onto her nose on purpose, that he then pursued her round the village with both insulting each other.
Called the secondary, L went to see head then other kids went in to back him up, also saying that he was in front of her back home not pursuing.
So, I told L to stay clear of A .
Tonight dad comes back and said L had said stuff to her, confronted him ( he's 12) and when he was telling me he never had done it, he said "how can you look in your mum's eyes and lying"
Then, went on to say I was a bad parent...
Just before, L got a message from A on FB saying, she didn't want her dad to come and she was sorry.

Now, I do believe my son, it's not in his nature to do things like that and I'm appalled by the one way thinking this guy has.
I'm going to see the deputy head next week to sort it out.
what would you do next ?

OP posts:
DanFmDorking · 22/01/2011 21:02
  1. Keep a diary of the incidents and record everything that happens, date and time and what was said.
  2. Write to the School about the problems. It needn?t be long and rambling, just short and to the point. ?I am very disappointed to find that ? My son is unhappy at school because ??
  3. If you are not happy that the problems are being addressed then take it up with the Headteacher. Ask what progress has been made regarding the problems.
  4. How the school addresses parental concerns is a measure of how good the school is.
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