this has really traumatised me...

[GypsyMoth]

DD is 14 and going through the most horrible time behaviourwise,both in school and at home. i am in process of accessing help,as are school. and DD knows things arent quite right

on wednesday evening,after a short argument with her older sister,she punched her. side of the head,temple area. this kind of violence is happening more and more. have had 5 police involvements in 5 weeks,so averaging once a week now.

i called police,they came out. DD had gone to bed as they took a while to arrive and after assaulting her sister she went straight to bed,so left her there rather than have more happen.

she was asleep,they asked me to wake her,so i went up. officers came with me. i tried to wake her but she was so sleepy. she was in her pink pyjamas and her hair allover and just looked 6 again. but the officer arrested her there and then,whilst she was sat rubbing her eyes.......i was so cross with her,but at the same time she's my baby still.

she got up,dressed and handcuffs were put on her in the hallway. second time in 5 weeks.

one of the lowest parenting moments ever. and i can't get past it.

Sorry to hear this. What was the outcome? was your daughter charged?

no,she was 'reprimanded'. thankfully!

but she's been warned that she wont get into her career of choice (ironically,the police force) unless she bucks her ideas up.

i just can't help but feel so sad about it. her own space where she should be safe.

I am in no way trivialising what your dd has done, but if police are involved again there has to be an "conclusion" for them - and as she has already had a reprimand, charge is more likely. It wont necessarily get her the help she needs.

Have you spoken to your GP about a referral to CAMHS?

thanks both of you!

yes,we have CAMHs referral...waiting for it now,YOT youth offending team will also be in touch,told they are good.caf report from school.social services (they are disappointing),counselling and doc has put her on the pill as it may ease hormones!!

police are actually good with her....and since wednesday she's been showing glimmers of the old dd. just wish they would get a bit tougher,not be quite so nice

i'm a lone parent,so no alcohol for me whilst i may be needed for the 'police station run'

we have a punchbag in garage too. its ME who uses it most!

Dear IloveTiff,

Sorry you are going through this, I really feel for you and you are not alone, although DD has not resulted in violence for a few weeks we nearly get there with me having to walk away. She is yet to come home and I am always waiting for a knock on the door from the police or indeed me ringing the police to report her missing. Today I stood my ground and she went out the home with no money. But we noticed last night that the wii had gone. I am getting so mad. DD has everyone involved and I would truly like to offer some glimmer of hope that it will do some good, but for our DD it appears not. I have a review meeting on the 1st with SS, CAMHS, Connexions, SS want to close the case as CAHMS are involved, but we have to wait 6 months before she see's an appointment with the big professional. I feel as though we are failing and do not wish to put her in care but she is darned close to it and that for us would be failure.

Hope things get better.
ps still waiting for a response from text asking her what time she will be home.

ss told me that they simply dont take teens into care! so its not an option here.

its bloody hard going....she blames it all on me as well! she's been ok today tho. its my other dc who need to be safeguarded too,can't quite get them to understand this.

and school teacher said that they havent had a decent social worker in 4 years from our local offices!

What does CAMHS stand for? Sorry to be dumb, just joined today and can't find this on acronyms!

CAMHS-Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services