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Is dsd potentially lying?

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notremotelyintofootie · 14/12/2010 20:17

Ok... I'm not sure about this...

Dsd's school website says they finish on Thursday. Just. Spoke to her and she said she thinks they finish today... She doesnt live with us and is known to fake illness in past to skip school...

She is in her last year doing gcse's and when dh questioned her about finishing today or Thursday she said she doesn't have exams tomorrow or Thursday and so doesn't have to go in...

Do you think she is lying or is this what they do now?

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thenightsky · 14/12/2010 20:22

Yeah... its possible... DD and DS both tried that trick with me. I used to just ring the school and ask.

OhLittleTownOfShirley · 14/12/2010 20:22

Does she live with her mother? If so have you/DH/DP spoken to her mum to find out the veracity of her story?

I don't think they're sitting GCSE's right now are they? I might be wrong about that though...not got one doing them yet!

I do know that the last year I was in school was more lax and we had study periods/revision classes which we could skip if we wanted.

She might well be legitimately off school for revision.

ajandjjmum · 14/12/2010 20:22

Phone up and ask the school. Are schools actually doing exams at this time of the year - I thought they were normally in January.

merrycompo · 14/12/2010 20:23

Er ... Can't you look at the school website?

Or ring the school?

Kewcumber · 14/12/2010 20:23

If school website says they finish on Thurs then surely they finish on thursday?

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notremotelyintofootie · 14/12/2010 20:55

That's what I thought re the website....

No point asking her mum, she hasn't got a clue at all I'm afraid.... We'll deal with dsd next week if she is lying.... The thing is she wants to come and live with us after her gcse's but i'm sure she doesn't realise how strict we are compared to her mum... We don't have any spare room either so she'll either have to aware with Dd who is one or Dd will have to come in with us and so either way we will be on top of each other and she won't be able to get much past us! (there has been issues around gin at her mums this year too)

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notremotelyintofootie · 14/12/2010 20:56

Share with Dd not aware!!!

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OhLittleTownOfShirley · 14/12/2010 21:03

Call the school then and find out if GCSE students are breaking early.

(not completely out of the realms of possibility TBH)

I'm a little bit uncomfortable about the rest of your post, DSD must be pretty unhappy at home if she wants to come and live with you and her dad and baby sister. Are you struggling with this idea?

(I used to drink gin when I was 15 - I was as sick as a dog on it and never touched it again, didn't you used to sneak drink when you were her age out of interest?)

maryz · 14/12/2010 21:16

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thisisyesterday · 14/12/2010 21:19

i also think they wouldn't be doing exams at this time of year surely??

aren't they done in june kind of time?

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notremotelyintofootie · 14/12/2010 21:32

Ohlittletown - I know exactly what I was like which is probably why I am so strict! And she is just bored at her mums, they moved to a village and so it takes more effort to meet friends but if she moves here we are 50 miles away from her friends and she is mega shy so I worry about her making new friends... She is lovely though!

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Simbacatlives · 14/12/2010 21:34

Mine is the same. Age 15- this week in monday am- gcse on Wednesday- study leave for the rest of the week.

No letter at all from school and not on website- they can go in if they want.

Simbacatlives · 14/12/2010 21:36

Sorry to be clear- there are gcses this week. Mine is doing food technology tomorrow.

OhLittleTownOfShirley · 14/12/2010 21:46

Ah yes, but we have to let them make their own mistakes (up to a point!) and not let our own problems colour the way we deal with them, I think, maybe

Poor lamb, so she's moved (presumably?) to a new boring village and she's struggling.

Is she planning on going to college near you? Are you more urban?

I CAN ASK QUESTIONS!

If you're close to her, I'd call the school and check the break up date for GCSE students. If it's today? All good. If it's Thursday?

I'd call her (or DP/Dh?whatever) and say "look darling, You should be in classes til Thursday, is everything ok at school? I expect you to be in class as you should be, this last bit is boring I guess, but it's important that you finish off these classes ready for your exams. Go on in to school, finish this term and we'll talk at xmas, I will be checking with the office. Love you"

She's probably a bit nervous about January exams or maybe they're being given revision time. CHECK FIRST.

OhLittleTownOfShirley · 14/12/2010 21:47

x posted with a bunch of far more knowledgable mothers than I

THE SHAME

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notremotelyintofootie · 14/12/2010 23:28

Well it seems feasible that she has 'study' periods.... It's all changed since I was at school!!

Yes we are alot more urban but dsd is definately of a village mentality and so adjusting might be hard but I've been encouraging her to explore here more and become more 'streetwise' like my 11 year old Ds!

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nottirednow · 15/12/2010 06:33

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bulby · 15/12/2010 06:45

In theory schools are no longer allowed to let students have study leave (a few kids hang about on the street so the majority get penalised for it....the government brought this in a couple of years ago). Many/most schools do their year 11 mocks in the couple of weeks before Christmas and many schools have found ways to allow the students study leave. Just phone the school if you are not sure

3boys1cat · 15/12/2010 18:20

My son is also in year 11 and he has had mock GCSE exams for the past couple of weeks. They were supposed to finish last Wednesday but dragged on due to the school being shut for a couple of snow days. On the one day where he didn't have any exams, he didn't have to go into shcool, but I had to sign a form before the exams started to give him permission not to be in school when he didn't have any exams.

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