c andle troubles!!!

[happygolucky0]

What would you think /do if you found that 13 yr old had removed a candle and you found it unlit in a hidding place?

Is the hiding place for the child, or the candle?

I'd think my 13 year-old was planning to read by candlelight in a romantic, Christmassy sort of way and would be thankful we live near the fire station.

What are you thinking?

My first thought is that it mght be being used for masturbation. (speaking as a once 13 year old girl)

Ds and his mates have also taken candles to use in their dens outside.

Well then I'd just be thankful that it was unlit, ascalu.

How curious.

I was convinced this was some wierdo in a raincoat posting, but OP has posted quite a bit before.

happygolucky0 - take alook at some of the crap some of these mothers are having to deal with. Lit, unlit, covered in pubes it really is not serious.

How true lazymum.

Thanks for your replies all. lazymumofteenagesons I have not been on this talk teens before so dont have a clue what some of the Mums are dealing with yet.
Not sure I can agree that it isnt serious though. The child isnt mine and has a learning disabilty I care him overnight once a week.
Not sure if he was planning to take it home or not.

by the way what does op stand for please?

Maybe he just likes hiding things.

OP - Original/Opening Poster

thanks Louii

If we all thought twice before posting because of the relative gravity of some other people's problems, it would be a very quiet board.

Why did you think that I was a weirdo lazymumofteenagesons??? Just wanted some advice isnt that what the site is for then?

Would it be better if I had posted 13 yr had burnt the house down last night? Would that reach the your idea of a problem ? I thought we are to protect our children maybe i got the wrong idea.

For(k)andles?

Only mistake was not indicating the candle was hidden by a boy, which would have taken lots of possible speculation away.

Would not think anything of it...

i think you all have v. suspicious minds - child might be going to make a nice candle decoration for mum's xmas pressie

just a thought

Got to admit, when I was young (6 or 7?? can't really recall) I was fascinated by fire and did make small fire in my room just to watch it. Luckily no bad outcome, and I grew up relatively normal (I think). But I would assume that a teenage boy with learning diffs might not think through possible risks and could be impulsive and a bit foolish, so I would err on side of caution. Talk to him and keep matches etc out of the way.

Another vote for the child just liking candlelight.

Thanks everyone .......... I have taken the matches well away now.(they were up high) I put the candle back on the mantle place where it was.
I Have spent alot of time talking about rules and taking risks ect and the danger of fire. Probably should do some more and get some fire safty leaflets too.
I remember too coldpaws when I was young ( around 7 )stealing my mums lighter as I was just curious about it, and hid it in the wardrobe.