My daughter left her facebook open on my phone so I was reading her messages (I am not ashamed of this - I believe that I should try and monitor her online life just as much as any other aspect) but I read her messages and discovered that she has started experimenting with sex acts with her boyfriend, and has experimented with cannabis. She knows that I know, but I genuinely don't know what to do next. I have always tried to inform her that she should respect herself and that what everyone else is doing may be cool now but that there are implications. The thing I most bothered about is that I read a message where another boy at school asked her if it was true that she had performed a sex act, and she told him that she had. I can understand that she is experimenting, even though it mortifies me, but her lack of respect and privacy about it REALLY bothers me. Any words of wisdom?