My DS(SS)17 took an overdose 2 years ago after his then GF split up with him. He was totally besotted and would spend as much time as possible with her. There were no previous signs of depression or self harm, he ended up in hospital for a week and received counselling for a few months. He had recently begun to mix with a new crowd who were of the EMO type and his 'new' best friend often cut him self. Not the most desirable influences.
He was doing well at school until he got in with that crowd, but with a bit of TLC and encouragement we managed to get him through his GCSEs (6 ok grades and 2 A's)
Now in his second year of A'levels, after not doing too well in his AS exams this August, he is, for all intent and purpose, repeating himself. His present GF attends the same collage and they share some courses. We have barely seen him for the past 3 weeks as her parents allow him to stay over when ever he wants. DS and GF have been looking at and applying to the same Uni's and he has even said all he wants to do is be with her.
We have tried talking with him about 'his' future and emphasising that we are not trying to break them up, but both DH and I are terrified of a repeat of 2 years ago (we have not told DS this). I managed to persuade DS to give us his GF's home number so we can speak with her parents. DS and GF have been seeing each other for about 8 months, she is a very nice young lady and they seem to treat each other with respect and care.They are both young adults and need to make their own mistakes,so would telling GF's parents about DS's past be a parental blunder too far?
ANY advice or thoughts would be helpful as we don't know what to do for the best.