what are the chances of getting some money off dd1's "friends"?

[lollipopshoes]

she skived off college yesterday and spent all of her college travel money on cider and beer.

Apparently she bought two 3ltr bottles of cider and 24 cans of carlsberg which were then drunk by her, her friend and her friend's boyfriend.

They said that they would pay her back when they next see her.

I have absolutely NO intention of giving her any money and she now does not have enough to get to college on Thursday when she's next due in.

Any advice on how to get some of this money back for her would be much appreciated.

(am very, very cross so perhaps not thinking straight on this one)

But surely if you sell her phone then you're going to be out of pocket? As you'll still have to pay the phone bill for it even if she no longer has the phone?

the big phone bill that she ran up is paid. The phone is now in her name and not tied into my account at all so if she gets cut off, it's her alone who gets cut off.

am deffo not paying any more phone bills for her

no way would I sell the phone, it will make life harder for you in the long run.

I think I agree, 2shoes.

will have to have a good think and tell her to have a good think about exactly where she sees her future.

If it's in the gutter with a bottle of cider then she's gaining good experience but if it's an education and a decent future she needs to buck her ideas up a bit

having thought about it a bit(yep I was ironing)
perhaps missing college will do her good, it isn't like you will get into trouble if she does unlike school.

Thing is 2shoes iirc her not attending means she looses her EMA so will be unable to fund her bus fares the following week?

OP teenagers are difficult aren't they?

she has missed college today.

She didn't even ask if she could borrow any money from me and I didn't offer it.

She has rang in college to tell them she won't be in today and she's already lost her EMA because she didn't go in or call on Monday.

don't know if she has plans to go in tomorrow...

What a nightmare lollipop, I went through similar issues with Dd1, not drinking but wasting money and not going to school 6th form. It is horrible for you and I don't envy you. I have to say we are much stricter with Dd2 [15].
I think you need to sit down with her and lay down some really strict guidlines for her and if she responds and acts responsibly you can ease off a bit.
If she carries on acting like this then you treat her like you would a child who can't be trusted. I agree with what someone said about a bus pass, but make her buy it and then she won't lose it.

Sorry you are having a hard time, good luck.

im a teen myself and if i need money or have spent un-wisely then i have to earn it back xx