Perpetual lateness

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DD1 aged 16 will NEVER leave the house on time.However much notice, warning, preprep threat or carrot. This is for school,meeting friends, socials, trains, lifts from other parents, weddings, funerals- She doesn't seem to register any lack of manners or inconvenience to others.Any ideas? Thanks.

my sister is like this - turned up over an hour late one year for christmas dinner, felt like chucking it over her head as it was all dried out - we now tell her to meet up at least an hour before the rest of the family arrive, she's still late but at least it's not by an hour!!

Just let her live with the consequences? Go without her, let school punish her, let her friends get pissed off with her, etc?

Family weddings/funerals would be tricky though...

As a teacher with a sixth form tutor group, I can assure you that this seems to be the norm...

I sympathise, OP. DD was chronically late for everything. It only got better when she left home and went to uni and I guess realised she was responsible for her own timekeeping.

This is what I tried. (Health warning - you will get a very cross teenager!)

Steal her duvet when you wake her up. Switch on lights, open curtains, turn on radio - they do love loud Classic FM at 7.00am . Confiscate phone/pc if you can - these are massive time-wasters in the morning.

Leave her behind for trips if she is late.

Be very vague if she asks where her stuff is. Don't start hunting for things she should have got ready earlier.

Just keep boring her with the same phrase, "it's up to you to be ready on time."

Thanks. Nice to know I'm not alone. Half term now-she has only missed one school revision day for GCSEs next week....

My 17 year old is like that, she's always rushing around but still late, she's very unorganised. When she was younger I used to chase her up all the time, bale her out, change my schedule to fit in with her tardiness. Over the last 6 months I've started to remove myself a bit, she still has to get the bus when she's running late, she forgets college books and must keep her friends waiting around a lot. I think she might be improving slightly, or that could be wishful thinking.
My 13 year old is just like me and makes lists, likes to be early and runs her life like a military operation. My poor hubby thinks it's just a pity that one of them couldn't just be 'normal'!

Seems you are my alter ego or your DD is my DD's twin. I am running a similar post in Secondary education.

I think you got more sympathy than me though, perhaps because mine was more school related!

It's difficult to loosen the reins, but will try some of the ideas. will hunt u out, greenpatch.:)