Was there an age when you stopped sleepovers?

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You know when they get older and they are up later than you hogging the bathroom and then loll around all morning and decide to make a big fry up at 12 just when you want a couple of crackers for lunch and a seat in your own goddam living room which is full of lolling teenagers?

Well, I banned sleepovers when dd1 was 13.

I am facing up to another tonight for dd2's 12th party and am wondering whether to ban them for everyone after tonight.

Have you put a stop to them?

They're still happening here with DS1 being 12....I think they prefer it here cos we give them the big room to sleep (or not) in.

Generally, they're quite well behaved and of good nature. We never really expect them to sleep, though we do encourage it if they're about doing something tomorrow...I guess it's still quite good natured fun....for now anyway

Ah, boys are still short and daft at 12 though so don't you get too comfy. The size of these big people, taking over the house, it really irked me.

No, dd1 continued to have friends over for sleepovers, mass sleepovers for birthdays slowed down but 1 or 2 friends were no problem at all.

We just call it having a friend to stay the nihjt- in bed by 10.

I could try that deadeye. There's always such a song and dance made about them.

We still have loads of large sleepovers (DS 1 is 18, DS2 16).

We live out of town, so not easy for them to get back home at night.

Don't mind the mornings, but do object to the noise at night when I'm trying to go to bed and they are just getting started.

I'm just glad they are happy to have friends round and it is nice to get to know them - not always easy when they get past primary school age.

The DD's had nore sleepovers in thier teenage years then they did before. They semed to stop around the age of 17. But they were only ever allowed 3 freinds at the most usually just 2.

Mine always had sleepovers (if that means the same thing as having friends stay over?). Even now DD1 (20) has moved to another city for uni, she'll still come back for a weekend and have a friend or two stay. It's just easier - and saves them getting a taxi/driving home well after dark. DD2 (16) loved having her friends over for a movie/Ben and Jerry's night - it's a lot better than them hanging out in the park drinking cider, isn't it! The other night one of her friends asked if I wanted to sit down and watch Dreamgirls with them - very flattered, but declined after DD's deathglare!

We can't fit in more than three friends and that's a real squeeze. Crikey, a 'mass' sleepover would be a flipping cauchemar.

my ds(18) often has his mates stay over

My DD, 16, still has sleepovers. We usually have 4 or 5, but they sleep together on the floor, having watched hours of Inbetweeners, and eaten rubbish snacks.

They are all at different sixth forms now so is lovely when they get together.

We like to know where they are so me and her friends mums encourage sleepovers!

I'd love for DS1 (aged 15) to have friends over to sleep.

Since changing schools aged 13 he's refused to bring any mates home or have parties/get-togethers.

Aw, whatswrong. Does he have friends thouhg?

WhatsWrongWithYou ..why ?

Oh sorry just realised how that must read!

He certainly has friends, but apparently we live 'in the sticks' and 'no one would come out here' - although we regularly trek out to surrounding villages to drop him off, as do all the other mugs mates' parents.

AH yes. We live on a housing edstate. Kids love living on estates, adults like to live in the back of beyond

He's googling 'flats above Blockbuster' as we speak .

Sleepovers when they're 13+ are way better than the ones pre-12 yrs. When they're older, they just watch DVDs and munch food and play on the xBox and they're quieter than squealing horror-story-telling young ones who are determined to stay up all night. Once they get to 16, they're quite happy to go to sleep at more reasonable hours and not disturb the rest of the household.

Surprisingly it all went like a dream last night.

I think what I really need is an extra bedroom, not younger kids.

Well we only started sleepovers at 12.
We too live in the sticks and I love to find a way for DS to see more of his friends who live in villages as far as 15 miles away (and no bus).
DS1 (14) had 4 hulking great friends for a sleepover on Friday. I told them to bring sleeping bags and they all slept on his bedroom floor. I made vast quantities of pizza and they brought crisps , sweets and popcorn . Played x box and watched DVDs of the inbetweeners until they went to bed at 3 am.
Five zombies in the morning ate huge bowls of cereal and went for a wander around the countiside.

14/15 year old boys are so huge and loud and hungry! They leave a pile of enormous shoes by the door and leave a smell of sweaty Lynx behind them.
I love them.

at the pile of giant shoes in the hall...they always make me smile

Well ds had a friend over last night and I had to go in and tell them to shut up at 4.30am .

I think it wll be a while before another .

I love them too - that's why I'm sad that DS1 denies me the pleasure of their company.

And they're so gratifyingly grateful for the food you provide, which you don't get from your own in the same way (well, I don't, but hopefully he's grateful to other people's mums!)

WhatsWrongWithYou - My DS2 is 12 and he refuses to invite friends over. He's happy to join in with DS1's friends but he says he doesn't like sleepovers and likes to go to bed in peace.
I can't seem to persuade him even to invite friends over just for the day.
Living where we do it can't really be spontaneous and parents have to do a fair bit of driving about.

Yes the food. It seems to satisfy some maternal need to feed up those boys.In spite of being very grunty and uncommunicative they all said thank you for the meal and thank you for having me when they left.