what do you all think of really violent horror films and young teens

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ds appears to be the only -not-quite-13-yr-old in school who is not allowed to watch things like SAW.
please tell me I am not alone?
I am under a lot of pressure now to allow him to watch slash-em-ups. I know he will watch them at others' houses but I don't want them in my house, ( I also have a 10-yr-old)

molly, sorry too if you thought i was criticising you personally. didn't realise you were op as namechange during thread confused me...
on a more constructive note... have you tried hitchcock, ie north by northwest. old but classic. one of the few films we can all enjoy as a family...

Yes, I had forgotton I had used two names....(I use both at different times but was trying to choose best Halloween option)
I love Hitchcock, but don't think it's quite his style.
He is a huge Tim Burton fan.

Do people think the Sixth Sense might be a good Halloween option? I can't remember it as it was years ago when I saw it but I do remember being very chilled by it.

Actually, just remembered Blair Witch project - utterly terrifying but not a drop of blood in it!

OP - has he seen Hot Fuzz? I know someone mentioned it earlier on but it's a good one, very similar style-wise to Shaun of the Dead but with spooky bits too.

And I would have no problem with letting my DS watch Blair Witch actually - I am such a scaredy-pants but it didn't frighten me at all because nothing happens - the scariest bit is the snot hanging out of the girl's nose.

Ooh sorry maryz but I wouldn't let mine see Sixth Sense - I know there's not much visual horror in it but I think some of the storylines in it are pretty disturbing. In the past my DS has been much more disturbed by 'creepy' or 'paranormal' themes than blood and guts (as I have too!)

Back to knowing your child and what they find acceptable or not.

Just to butt in with something that may be relevant - all dd's classmates claim to have watched SAW when what they actually mean is they have been on the ride at Thorpe Park and seen the tv's (with tame clips on them) while waiting in the queue.

12 year olds talk all sorts of shit.

So true! Apparently all my son's 12/13 year old friends stay up till 10.30 every week night; then as late as they like at weekends. Oh, and they're allowed to play on their xboxes all day and all night if they want to...

I'm such a bitch of a mother.

Seriously, I don't know anyone whose 12/13 yr old goes to bed before 10.30pm on any night.

Really? I really am a bitch of a mother then

Bollocks. I don't know anyone who doesn't send their kid at 9 or before on a school night.

DD is 12 and goes up at 8 where she winds down for half an hour before lights out. She then sleeps about ten hours and wakes up naturally at 7.

DH and I go to bed at 10 - there's no way a 12 year old is staying up longer than me - and there are no programmes suitable after 8 that I would let her watch anyway - that's when I watch unsuitable stuff like Law and Order

Re bedtime, DD went to bed at the age of 12 at 9 o clock. She is nearly 15 now and it has only just been upgraded to 10pm. You can't just let your kids stay up all hours, they get knackered.

D doesn't watch slasher films (mind you she has no desire to watch crap like Saw and Hostel). She has watched 15s like Shaun of the Dead etc, but no horrors.

She went on a sleepover when she was 10 and watched Final destination and had nightmares, i rang the mother and had words, and she wasn't allowed to go there again.

DD asked to watch Girl with Dragon Tattoo, I said no, don't think it is appropriate for her to watch sexual violence like that tbh.

Yes our DS has to have lights out by 9 on a school night - apart from anything else we need a break from his mood swings for a couple of hours a night [hgrin]

Goblinchild - i just love this from you. Hope you dont mind if I use it [hgrin]
sorry for hijack

I know my children and what they can handle or not. What other parents do has never been a consideration for me, and if mine tried that, I used to say
'But X goes to church every Sunday and Y isn't allowed to read books at the table.
B's mum won't let the cat sleep on his bed.
Are you sure you want to go down this path?'

The answer has always been no, after a little thought.

Feel free, I have very logical teenagers and I'm very consistent.

gawd, I don't want to see Girl With A Dragon... I have read the books and I was disturbed. I don't want to see it being depicted on a big screen, I have too much imagination!

I know what you mean about the young teen's interpretation of actual facts! Sadly I know for a fact that at least 8 of his friends have seen SAW as it was on a birthday party sleepover (which, thankfully DS wasn't able to go to...) and his friend brought it round to let ds borrow it - but bless 'em, they asked me if it was ok for him to borrow it. (guess what I said.)
What happenes next time, when they work out not to consult me first... :(

My dcs aged 14 and 11 (both at secondary) are in bed by 8.30 on a school night, and 9 at the weekend.
They comply.....that's the way we've always done it.
No tvs/laptops in rooms- works for us.
DD who is 14 hates all the vampire stuff- she's happy with rom com type stuff.