sick with worry over missing 13 yr old

[hopeless1]

Hi all, need some friendly reassurance and advice. Those of you who have read a previous thread about my 13 yr DD will know that she has been a complete nightmare. Today we had fight a physical one as I was trying to get her mobile off her, she has a blackberry and is always on it even very late at night, anyway her behaviour was so bad that I told her she could not stay at a friends house tonight. She was staying over with a friend who's mum is away and I am meant to be in charge. Friends mum knew that they were staying at another friends house. Anyway, after a load of verbal abuse I decided enough is enough and went to get her phone, hence the fight. Phone is now at home but she is not, Apparantly after phoning all her friends, she is not where she is meant to be and they all do not know where she and her friend are. It would appear that they have conspired to be elsewhere. I am sick with worry as I know she has been into the next big town meeting people, these are boys/men, as we keep getting texts on her new bog standard phone. (unable to unlock blackberry so took sim out for contacts but no contacts on it) One of these boys is a 19yr old who did not know she was 13 and met her this afternoon. Trouble is they a texts alerting us to a facebook message, which also is password protected. Have phone police to report her missing, but can't sleep and feel really sick.

help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can completely understand everything you are saying, I have a 13 DD whos behaviour is so similar to yours it is scarey. My DD went missing 2 weeks ago and was brought home at 530am by the police, it was the most horrid thing I have ever been through I was physically sick with worry. She is verbally abusive, doesn't do as she is told calls me and DP and 2 DS's all sorts of horrid names and we have even got into a physically altercation with her, when trying to stop her storming out of the house, once again. She goes out when she wants comes home when she wants, if we don't give her money she steals it. Shes stolen her own friends mobile phones from them. We now owe money to one of them as it was a contract phone on their parents business. We have exactly the same problem with Facebook and MSN adding all sorts of people and telling lies about her age the way she talks to people and the things she says is so frightening. We have completely banned computer and phones in the house but that doesn't stop her when shes at mates houses. It's all so worrying, It is making me ill. I'm at my wits end not knowing what to do, everything we try we seem to fail, I feel like a complete failure, I'm letting her down and hate myself for it. Shes very open with us and tells us what her problems are and how shes feeling and although we know these things none of that helps in trying to sort her awful attitude, she just doesn't seem to give a S**T about anyone but herself.

I really do feel for you as i know exactly how it feels.