I'm going spare with my DD who has recently turned 18, finished a levels and has the whole summer off, with no job. she is spending most days sleeping, then most evenings drinking, smoking and gossiping with friends. she is a bright sociable girl, lots of friends etc however i'm frustrated with the slacker lifestyle and can't seem to get through to her about this behaviour, i have two other DD's one of whom is only 5 and i can't cope with this 'amy winehouse' type person living in my house like this - is it just that time when the natural separation needs to occur and she moves out - i'm finding it very hard to know what to do for the best. btw i'm a single parent too - i do wonder if her dad would put up with a houseful of boozing teens hanging out mosts eves, maybe i'm just a soft touch.. advice desperately required!
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cuts corners...yup
I am currently "waiting" for dd to clean the bathrooms
I told her 2 hours ago she had to do them before she went out
any minute now she will fly in here, say her friends are waiting for her and she will get a nasty shock when I say she cannot go until she has done her chores
cue...screaming abdabs 
lol at screaming abdabs
DD was saying to me at the weekend 'mum do you remember when you made me mop the house 3 times because you said I hadn;t done it properly? You made me so ANGRY because you were sat there reading a book and eating a cake and I had to MOP'
I just said 'coochie coo cinderella' and we both laughed. I bet she loathed me at the time, though
I can still remember being made to mow the grass before I was allowed to go out with my friends. We had a filthy petrol mower that you had to fiddle with aggeeess before it worked.
I did the mowing in a HUGE strop whilst I swore violently (although inaudibly because of the noise of the mower) the whole time.
My mum and dad took a picture of me out of the window with my sulky screwed up cats-bum-face shoving the mower up and down. I remember flouncing out out of the house shouting about how CHILDISH they were.
Now, its a lot more appealing
lol notyummy - I bet they were giggling like pixies watching you mow the lawn
DD often mutters to herself whilst she does the dishes. I always say to her that she needs to put AWAY all the clean and dry dishes on the rack before she washes new ones, and stores them all haphazardly all over the side on tea towels because there is no room on the rack. She always ignored me. Once I made her wash all the dishes again because I was sick of her not bothering to put the dishes away.
I could hear her in the sitting room bashing plates together with venom and huffer puffing and going 'for gods sake')
Petty, but strangely enjoyable.
no, I am shtum
I am not going to repeat myself (again)
no clean bathrooms, no day out with friends
she will push it to the last minute of course, and I may have to do my army inspection...but she ain't leaving the house until they are done to my satisfaction
if she misses the bus her friends are on...so be it
it has happened before, it will happen again 
I also do army inspection. DD hates it.
I inspect the bathroom. I always find toothpaste on the taps, soap scums around the shower head. I just stand there and point and say 'you didn't wash that properly'.
DD watched Private Benjamin some time back and said I was like the horrible sergeant major woman.
AnyF - does your dd clean the toilet as well? DD doesn't - she said at the start that she couldn't clean toilets 
, so i do that. DP said if she really didn't want to do it I shouldn't make her.
yes, I make her do the bog too, as in cleaning the back, seat etc
it can be horrid too (I have a 10 yo son...say no more 
)
she is exempt from bleach and arm down the pan duty though
but only because she splashes it everywhere and ruins carpet/clothes etc
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