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Belly button piercing....what age ?

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AnyFucker · 04/08/2010 21:57

For those with teenage dd's, at what age (if ever) did you allow them to get their belly button pierced ?

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sue52 · 05/08/2010 14:03

I've only just relented and allowed my 14 year old DD to have her ears pierced. I don't think I could ever imagine allowing her to pierce her navel.

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AnyFucker · 05/08/2010 14:07

I give you a few months, sue

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sue52 · 05/08/2010 14:58

Anyfucker I'm not going to back down on this one, the shock of seeing DD with a belly button ring would make DH lose what little hair he has.

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AnyFucker · 05/08/2010 16:13

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SirBoobAlot · 05/08/2010 20:11

I guess it kind of depends on why she wants it done... Some of the girls I knew at school got it done because the boys thought it was "sexy"

Oh and make sure she goes and watches someone else get it done first

FranSanDisco · 05/08/2010 20:20

DN had it done at 13 yo which I thought was a little young. I'd be willing to discuss at about 15 yo I think. I am hoping all these tatts and piercings will be seen as very old fashioned by the time dd is a teen but I'm kidding myself aren't I ?

mears · 05/08/2010 23:19

sue52 - I was you Afriend of mine's daughter wasn't 'alloweed to have a piercing'. When she was 18, she went and got everything pierced in defiance - tongue ,lip, eyebrows, belly button. I figured it was best not to make a big deal of it.

ravenAK · 05/08/2010 23:28

British Body Piercing's Code here.

If they'll pierce an under-16 without parental consent, they're not following this voluntary code: I wouldn't go anywhere near them.

I'd be inclined to say it was OK after the age of 16. Seems to be becoming increasingly seen as naff, though - like a lot of things, it was alternative, then it becane mainstream, & now it's passe.

Stricnine · 06/08/2010 10:07

Oh I hope so Raven... DD wants to get her lip pierced and I'm not convinced (it's a hard one as I have - in my distant past pierced odd bits of my body.. long, long ago and well healed now!)... but... I'm hoping she'll grown out of the desire by 16 (which is the age we've said she needs to be)...

maryz · 06/08/2010 12:34

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Manda25 · 06/08/2010 14:58

I think the way she approached you was very mature, she also hasn't moaned and winged while you have taken some time to think about it - for that reason i would let her have it done. Get her to do some research of piercing shops in your area and also get her to research what could go wrong.

desertmum · 06/08/2010 16:05

My daughter had hers done at 14, she also has three piercings in one ear and four in the other. She would, if we allowed her to, also have a tattoo.

At first I was dead against it all, but you know, she is still the funny, bright, charming girl now with her piercings that she was without them. She loves them and would have more done if we let her, but we've said no more until she is no longer financial dependant on us.

If people judge her for having piercings that's their problem. She is a fantastic girl.

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 06/08/2010 16:09

Never with my permission - looks so skanky. Otherwise 16, when they no longer need my permission (or cash)

lemonysweet · 06/08/2010 16:13

yeah, i wouldnt let anyone under the age of 16 get anything other than their earllobes done, as i always question the the piercer. its like people who say 'we do tattoos at 16 with parental consent'
still no legal or right matey...

my DDs [16 currently want their nose pierced, and DTD1 wants the...okay ive forgotten the name for it, but the little sticky out bit nearest your head...tragus! i have said they can have any ear stuff done [except stretching] but please wait until they are 17 for a nose piercing. and watch a few videos of it being done first.

comtessa · 06/08/2010 16:15

I had mine done when I was 17 - and didn't dare tell my dad until I was 24! He had known for years of course.
I would say 16, and also, better that she wants a piercing where it's easy to hide. My sister had her nose pierced, and three earring in one ear, two in the other. And then decided to go into law and had to let them all heal over except for one in each ear.

GardenersDelight · 06/08/2010 19:10

my DD's both had it done the summer hols after they were 15, oldest has now got it done 3 times!! didnt know you could until she did.As a sign of the times younger DD got a new belly bar for christmas from her BF what happened to necklaces or earrings!

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AnyFucker · 08/08/2010 22:16

been away for a few days, and wanted to say thanks for all the further posts on this thread x

I have made my mind up

manda...you are right, she has approached it well

it is a piercing...can be hidden in future, is not permanent (unless it goes badly wrong ...)

so will let her have it done for her 15th birthday

let's just hope it ain't the harbinger of more mithering to come

fwiw...tattoos are an absolute no-no while she still lives under my roof, so don't see them the same as piercings

I don't like them...hate the fact they are permenent (her dad and I don't have any)

< sorry to all the tattoed ladies >

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TrillianAstra · 08/08/2010 22:25

I had mine done at 18.

If she is responsible enough to look after it (and t sounds as if she is) then why not, at 15?

Honeydragon · 08/08/2010 22:39

As a tattooed lady no offence taken at all

I think that if you mention the no mithering thing to your daughter she will understand - also I think that if you are going with her at 15 is much more sensible than her going off to wherever's cheapest/convinient when she is 18.

I thinks its great that she feels able to approach you so sensibly and that you and her father haven't belittled her request, and addressed it fairly and reasonably.

I got my first tattoo at 18 - and despite being old enough to do so without their permission asked my parents anyway - I was living with them at the time and I felt it was reasonable to ask my mother if I could mutilate the body she had spent the last 18 years protecting to the best of her ability , they were ok with it but my Dad did cry afterwards (but he also cried when I cut my hair ).

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AnyFucker · 08/08/2010 23:00

aww thanks, hd

what a lovely post x

don't get me wrong, if she has tattoos in the future, it won't change anything for me

I just cannot ever give my permission for that, IYSWIM (I know too many people who have major regrets about getting them done, is all...)

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PorphyrophillicPixie · 08/08/2010 23:01

I'd say when they are old enough to understand how to look after it properly. I got my second ear lobe piercings at 16 and my cartilidge at 19. Cartilidge is now out after it was in for a year or so as it wouldn't heal properly and my second lobe piercings are infected constantly and no matter how much saline or whatnot I use they stay infected so I just leave them. But that's all because I didn't care for them properly when I first got them done.

With body piercings there is more of a risk, so really make sure she knows what she is doing. I think though that a year to wait for it is long enough to back out if she doesn't want it and to research it properly!

bruces · 20/08/2010 16:57

we said to our 14yr dd if she did well in her GCSE's we'd let her surprise surprise she did fab,i checked the piercing place out 1st and made sure it's hygenie/coucil certificates were all up to date

wotsitallabout · 20/08/2010 17:48

My DD was 14. I was not happy about it but far rather that than tongue or nose. At least no-one can see it. I did refuse to pay for it so she used birthday money.

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AnyFucker · 20/08/2010 17:52

thanks for bumping my thread guys

she hasn't mentioned it for a couple of weeks, so is respecting the fact I am "thinking about it"

will let her get it one for her 15th b'day

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DandyDan · 22/08/2010 08:48

Never, if possible. 16 if she's insistent. But my kids have told me too many horror stories of their friends who got infections/ring got ripped or caught on something. My son has various parts of his body pierced but that's one he's never gone near.

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