Partners tattoo

[Fifedad78]

I know I am going to sound horrible, controlling etc etc and I’m prepared for the abuse.... but here goes, my partner of a few years (planning on marrying in the next 18 months or so) has just got a new tattoo, she had several when we met, however, I absolutely hate it, it’s in a prominent location and, I am ashamed to admit, it’s proving to be a real turn off for me, I love her with all my heart and fancied more and more the longer I knew her but this has all but killed that passionate attraction.......I need help, I know it’s just a tattoo and I have never said not to get it etc (I did say I wasn’t that keen but she knew I was never a tattoo fan anyway) I am finding it hard to look beyond the tattoo and I am hoping it is only because it’s ‘fresh’ and new but this has totally knocked me for 6..........help

You're coming across as very superficial op. What happen when she's older? Wrinkles? The usual weight gain with pregnancy, old age or just because?
If a tattoos going to put you off her, she's better off without you.

I would hate it too. Hate tattoos. But if she had several already you should have been prepared for this surely. And you should be prepared that there will be more.

How prominent is it? Face, neck, upper chest?

What and where is it’s placement?

I can understand this. Being disgusted by a body modification isn’t the same as being put off by natural signs of ageing. I’m partial to tasteful tattoos but would struggle to sleep with my husband if he had one done on his face for example. Or if he had a nipple pierced or shaved his chest. I just find it repulsive (as opposed to merely unattractive for example if he gained a bit of weight or grew a beard). There really isn’t much you can do beyond hoping that you will get used to it and be able to ignore it.

Just give it time...I don't even notice my wife's tattoos most of the time. It would be like noticing she's got hair. They're just things that are there.

Having said that, I don't mind/like tattoos in general so that may change things.