What is this board for?

[powotsits]

I clicked on a thread yesterday that came up in the main section of the site.

I’ve not been on this board before and wasn’t aware of it.

What’s it for?

Without looking I would have imagined it was a space for anyone involved in (in any capacity) or considering surrogacy to find support and information.

Instead it seems to function as a bait for people who have exhausted ivf and are looking into other options, who arrive at a board patrolled almost exclusively by people who are vehemently opposed to surrogacy as a general concept and regularly check the board for new posters to badger, having no actual interest in surrogacy themselves. It functions as an anti-surrogacy board, but is not signposted as such to unwitting posters.

Am I missing something? Why is this board here? It is a very dark corner of the site.

While there are occasional personal attacks, the majority posting are not attacking individuals. They are exposing the reality of surrogacy and criticising the practice. They are basically playing the ball, not the man.

Actually that's a very good point.

Actually I would challenge you on that point. In your OP, you said:

'Instead it seems to function as a bait for people who have exhausted ivf and are looking into other options, who arrive at a board patrolled almost exclusively by people who are vehemently opposed to surrogacy as a general concept and regularly check the board for new posters to badger, having no actual interest in surrogacy themselves'.

Those who object to surrogacy as an immoral practice do have a very real interest in Surrogacy. But that interest is focused on the protection of the surrogate and child, not the buyer or receiver.

So your original point wasn't personal attacks exclusively, it was questioning the interests of those posting.

Agreed. The comments on there were absolutely vile!!

This board is so toxic. There is nothing helpful but a group of anti surrogacy people on moral high ground attacking any Intended Parents (IP). I know many successful surrogacies and I had my kids through surrogacy. Happy to share my experience and the process.

To everyone in moral high ground, please do not post here. I am not going to respons to any ethical discussions that should happen in another forum.

hi anyone, i've started a small topic on surrogacy, please lemme know if we can discuss this matter on this forum. sorry i dont wanna raise any concerns, thanx

Hi Tanya, you can probably see that mumsnet have deleted lots of the unpleasant comments above – if you report any aggressive, abusive or upsetting posts to mn hq, I’m sure they will look into them

hello, yes, i've notice a lot of intence discussions, as the subject is very sensitive. I realy want to just exchange the info without starting any fight and don't get banned from here. thanx.