Just as the title says - will he ever change or am I being silly?
I've been with my boyfriend for two years - we originally met 10 years ago when he left rehab and was doing a placement where I work but lost contact until he added me on Facebook and we got chatting. He originally lived 1.5 hours awy from me so we arranged for me to go and see him. I was really surprised that he lit a joint in front of me and had a beer as I'd assumed that he was still clean. It didn't bother me too much though as it was in moderation.
Fast forward 2 years and he's drinking at least 6 cans a day and smoking weed a lot (£50 worth a week). He can't afford this but prioritizes it over food to the point where he's visiting the foodbank. It controls his life, if he's coming to mine he's frustrated that he has to wait until my DC have left town (they aren't in the house at the same time) so it's safe for him to smoke. Or if I'm at his he asks me to get him beer and then he gets anxious if I'm running late.
Yesterday he didn't have anything as he's got no money and spent the day in bed saying he had withdrawals.
Am I mad to stay with him? If he got clean again everything would be great but as it is I feel myself pulling away but am scared to say anything because he'll end it. He knows I think he should stop.
Sorry this is so long - I just needed to get it off my chest.