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Brother died from heroin addiction now I’m married to a former heroin addict. Ask me anything!

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Askmeanything90 · 10/03/2026 15:35

Here if anyone wants advice or help in navigating heroin addiction

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Askmeanything90 · 11/03/2026 12:10

whatdoyouactuallymean · 10/03/2026 18:09

This thread is so interesting to me, because my brother was also a heroin addict and I can't imagine being with anyone who has been through that addiction cycle. Clearly you're happy with your DH, so the differences really intrigue me.

I'm sorry to hear of your loss firstly. Do you think that missing your brother influenced your choice of partner? That picking a recovered addict is in a sense giving you a version of life where heroin addictions can be overcome. An alternate reality so to speak.

Do you think your experience of loving your brother through addiction made your partner feel familiar in a way, or gave you more empathy towards him?

I initially didn’t know he was a former heroin addict the night we met but I think in a way it did make him more attractive to me as we shared a bond and he was able to give me answers about addiction and getting my head around my brother dying suddenly which I had waited years for.
for example, I never had sympathy for addicts, thinking they had a choice to choose or not and they got themselves into that mess. I realised that many have self esteem issues and are trying to mask it with drugs. It made me feel sorry for my brother that he had issues we hadn’t acknowledged

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