so as the title suggests, this is what I am living with at the moment.
back story…married for 10 years, 2 children 9 and 7.
i would like to say this has just been discovered but I’ve known for years and begged him to get help, which he hasn’t.
sex life dwindled after first child - I of course lacked self esteem after gaining some weight from pregnancy and he wasn’t there for me
I caught him a few times on OnlyFans, other porn sites where you have to interactive shall we say.
of course he’s remorseful, I’ve threatened to leave, he begs for forgiveness.
the final straw came was when he was caught doing it when he was supposed to be watching the children when I went to the shops and I came home to my 5 year old watching TV by himself.
still I haven’t left, he won’t come near me, he’s lazy and puts no effort into our relationship. Never comes to bed with me, never cooks for me or if he does it’s like he’s just solved world peace - I should be so grateful!
He’s a good man deep down but he doesn’t see a problem and I don’t know if I can break my family over this. I want him to get help
so I can have a real husband…it’s just hard