This is so hard as to where to even start, my dd has turned 17 and has two older siblings in their 30s now , both settled and married with kids.
DD met someone when at school aged 15 through a supposed friend of hers via social media and has become obsessed with him and has turned into a child I don't even recognise anymore.She didn't even finish school and didn't even attempt GCSE's
He has been in the care system since a youngster so clearly it hasn't been an easy ride for him. However my dd is now doing drugs with him, (cocaine, ket , mainly weed .. funded on a massive binge from his benefits which are gone in a weekend!
runs away all the time and yet spends the majority of the time crying over him as he treats her so badly, she has self harmed, has tried to end her life numerous times ( cries for help) and there seems nothing as a family we can seem to do to support her in the right way.
She is finally after two years seeing that his actions are controlled and manipulative but is also scared as the threats to her feel real.
There has been welfare (SS) police often also involved and all is about her vulnerability and the fact that she is being coercive controlled and at such a young age !
As her parent I'm going out of mind as she's often just out arguing on the phone with him and maybe high on drugs that anything could happen to her, she is completely out of control and I never had this with her older siblings.
I support her, I mainly cry for her.
But where does this ever end if ever ? This awful excuse of a young man who just chases his next fix has robbed me of a beautiful daughter and I don't know how to regain the power that he somehow has over her?
I've been on all the sites regarding info and links for help which she refuses but I don't even know why I've typed this out as I know there's no answer until my girl admits she will accept help.
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