Inpatient rehab Thailand.

[Whistledown2]

Does anyone have any experience of this? I have been looking at UK rehab centres and the prices are eye watering, it appears due to the low cost of living in Thailand, these centres can provide quality rehab at a much lower cost, even after travel expenses.

I am looking for my son who has a drug addiction.

@Redburnett Unfortunately he isn’t open to anything whatever I suggest. He just isn’t ready. That’s why I (me not him) thought inpatient may work but after reading posters on here that isn’t the case if he’s not engaging with anything.

@AmusedCat I am
in the process of him almost being incarcerated at home. I know this is wrong. It will not work and the stress of ‘controlling’ the situation is enormous. I am very conscious of being an enabler. I think it’s a process that we go through, bribes/threats, anything you think that may work. I do not want him
here but I do in equal measures. I am glad to hear your friends Daughter is clean🙏🏼

@Whistledown2 thank you so much. I am totally open to DMs. I feel like we are on the same road right now.
The fear of loss is the biggest for me too. For a long time my son hasn’t really eaten food, so he also is skeletal. And when I buy him food it basically releases his money entirely for alcohol and drugs. So I know o would need to cut him off.
But no one who hasn’t had to do that to their child could possibly know how devastating that is. I read some brochures from al -anon and they say that the addict has to reach rock bottom before they can recover. We will both have to do this. It’s just so so hard.

For those struggling with substance use in your families, see if your local addiction service or a local charity offer CRAFT training - an amazing resource for families, very practical course on how to cope with addiction in your family. Thinking of you all - it’s a terrible and lonely place to be.

There is a reputable rehab center in Koh Phangan, run by British guy ( ex addict himself, sober 20 odd years, turned his life around and been helping other people for a long time)

His name is Ian Young, you can easily find him online/facebook and ask him /share your concerns.

Good luck

@MaggieBsBoat we are in very similar situations. I identify with everything you say. I will drop you a DM.

@Southsiderg4 My local addiction service is very poor to be honest. I’m thinking to maybe try something in another area. I will look around for CRAFT training. Thanks so much for the info👍🏼

@Ilikecocacola thank you so much I will Google him.

Op are there no Narcotics Anonymous meetings in your area?

@38thparallel Plenty, my son is reluctant to go, though he has been in the past.

Ah ok. I am sorry you are going through this op. Addiction is a curse and it affects everyone in the orbit of the addict.
However, as a pp says, hopefully one day he will be sick and tired of being sick and tired and will seek the help he needs.

I’m so sorry to read your posts OP. My DH died of his alcoholism despite long and expensive UK rehab stints. I cannot think of a worse place than Thailand to attempt recovery, especially if your son isn’t ready.

So whilst I am not Thai .. I lived there for 15 years, speak the language, have : half Thai children so pretty meshed in the country and culture.. if he is up for it then it will be the cure you are looking for… if not, it will be a disaster…

@38thparallel it certainly does. And I pray he gets sick and tired of it because at the moment he is very sick and tired. Thanks for your kind words

@HappyNewTaxYear The purpose of my enquiry about overseas rehabs were the cost as I cannot afford one let alone subsequent stays. He isn’t ‘ready’ at the moment but my gut feeling and knowing my son’s personality, it isn’t for him. It’s good to get other perspectives though. Thank you.

@Fishingboatbobbingnight That is interesting that it is one outcome or the other. I think as I said to another poster, my son’s personality would indicate a disaster. Thanks for your insight.

@Whistledown2 I'm pleased you've found the thread helpful. A PP mentioned about cutting the addict off and not enabling. I wanted to add from an addict perspective that at the point when that was done to me it was when I started thinking more seriously about making changes. I had no safety net anymore. It definitely wasn't an overnight change and things got worse (quickly) before they got better but today I am grateful that the people who love me let me go. They needed to for them and for me. Yes I was resentful and blame full for a while - nothing was ever my fault - but ultimately that was the turning point for me. I guess what I'm trying to say is if that is the road you decide to take, remember you made that decision out of love anytime you feel guilty about it!

I'm going to bow out the thread as hoping this may continue to grow into support for yourself and others in a similar situation and as an addict myself I think it slightly undermines your safe space! I genuinely wish you well and hope your DS can reach a point where he gets to experience the gift of recovery xx

@NeverAloneNeverAgain I can honestly say this has been one of the most helpful and supportive posts I have been on, anywhere. I have heard many many times about the withdrawal of enabling, and how giving the responsibility to the addict can be a turning point. Sadly I have been enabling for some time, and I know I am. As you will know, it comes from a loving intention.

I’m very grateful for you sharing your experience and perspective.

If you choose to bow out that is entirely up to you, but I think your knowledge and experiences are far from any undermining. I feel safe amongst those who share the same (or similar) experience and therefore understand my plight.

Thank you for all your postings. I sincerely wish you well. Your kindness is humbling.

I dealt with addiction from my ex bf. Omg it was the worst thing i have ever expierienced in my life. Split up now. Hes an iv coke user. I tried everything and i mean everything. He has to hit his own rock bottom. But the lies deception stealing it breaks you. How old is he how is he affording it. But you are enabling him by letting him live with you especially if he isn't paying rent. Isit drugs or drink