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rehab for alcohol/ketamine—recommendations? the Priory or elsewhere?

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patchword · 20/07/2025 11:24

I'm hoping that someone on this board might have some suggestions for me—I'm researching rehab centers in the UK for a family member (male, 31) for alcohol and ketamine abuse. He has complex mental health issues including ADHD and trauma. Ideally we are looking for a place where he can do 2/3 months, not just a 28 day reset. He lives overseas, so we will be paying privately. I first thought of the Priory (familiar brand name) but I've since read some terrible news reports about the group....does anyone have any experience with them, positive or negative, especially the North London center? I would also be very grateful for any other recommendations, especially for non-12-step approaches, but would like to hear about 12-step places too, if that's what helped you or your loved one. Within an hour or two of London is prefered, but not required. Thank you everyone for your kindness to others in crisis.

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Pennyplant19 · 23/07/2025 08:33

When my family member was struggling the Priory was just like a hotel and he didn’t do well. He did much better at The Recovery Lodge in Sittingbourne, Kent. He stayed for a month - not sure if you can do longer, but daily meetings, and counselling from trained ex-addicts, which was helpful to my family member as he said counsellors that hadn’t been through it didn’t ’get it’. Good luck on your journey x

patchword · 23/07/2025 11:37

Pennyplant19 · 23/07/2025 08:33

When my family member was struggling the Priory was just like a hotel and he didn’t do well. He did much better at The Recovery Lodge in Sittingbourne, Kent. He stayed for a month - not sure if you can do longer, but daily meetings, and counselling from trained ex-addicts, which was helpful to my family member as he said counsellors that hadn’t been through it didn’t ’get it’. Good luck on your journey x

Thank you for the information—and I hope you and your family member are doing well now.

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doglikescheeseontoast · 23/07/2025 11:41

I went to Sanctuary Lodge in Halstead, Essex. The company that runs it is UKAT, they have other centres in different areas. I cannot recommend them highly enough, they supported me to save my own life. I am 3 years sober.

patchword · 23/07/2025 17:01

doglikescheeseontoast · 23/07/2025 11:41

I went to Sanctuary Lodge in Halstead, Essex. The company that runs it is UKAT, they have other centres in different areas. I cannot recommend them highly enough, they supported me to save my own life. I am 3 years sober.

Thank you, I will take a look. It is so encouraging to hear of stories like yours.

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Narwhal100 · 30/07/2025 23:52

Avoid the Priory, I was in a similar position with a family member and speak from recent experience. It’s very corporate - the patients are treated like inmates and you get very little one on one therapy for your money. Promis in Kent is much more humane and offers daily therapy. You may have already made a decision but it’s always useful to have a back-up option. Wishing you and your family member well.

Rehab4rightmove · 31/07/2025 00:05

The Nelson Trust have mens residential placements. They are absolutely fantastic.

patchword · 31/07/2025 08:26

Narwhal100 · 30/07/2025 23:52

Avoid the Priory, I was in a similar position with a family member and speak from recent experience. It’s very corporate - the patients are treated like inmates and you get very little one on one therapy for your money. Promis in Kent is much more humane and offers daily therapy. You may have already made a decision but it’s always useful to have a back-up option. Wishing you and your family member well.

Thanks, yes, we have decided against the Priory. Grateful for this other suggestion. All the best to you and your family member.

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patchword · 31/07/2025 08:27

Rehab4rightmove · 31/07/2025 00:05

The Nelson Trust have mens residential placements. They are absolutely fantastic.

Thank you so much, I will take a look.

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doglikescheeseontoast · 31/07/2025 09:15

Sorry to come back to this - I realised I recommended Sanctuary Lodge/UKAT, but didn’t say why 🤦🏼‍♀️

My issue was alcohol and I went for 28 days. There were people in there who had much longer stays, and a few had shorter stays. People there were experiencing many different types of addiction, many had more than one.

Within a couple of hours of being there I saw a doctor (this was standard) who established that I required a medical detox , so this was started that day and took 7 days. It didn’t mean a delay in therapy, that started alongside the detox.

From the minute we woke up to the minute we went to bed, our time was accounted for. We had group therapy, 1:1 therapy, organised downtime activities such as yoga, acupuncture, and scheduled free time to prepare written work. Phone/internet use was limited to about an hour à day, and by the time we had queued up to be given our devices it was more like 50 minutes. There was a basic onsite gym, with closely monitored use.

The food was excellent. I was one of the people who had stopped eating pretty much anything substantial or healthy because of the level of my addiction, and I rediscovered the joy of good food. We were not given much in the way of sweet things, and the good provided was healthy, varied and plentiful.

SL did follow a 12 step approach, but in a very basic way - the 12 steps in their recognised format are quite wordy, but break it down and Step 1 is basically to admit you’ve got a problem, Step 2 is to recognise you can’t sort it out by yourself. In a typical 28 day stay, most people cover steps 1-3 in depth. Every evening we attended a Zoom meeting of AA, NA, CA, or had someone who had previously attended the rehab come to talk to us about their lives since leaving. I was invited back after about 2 years sobriety to give such a talk.

After I left rehab, there was one year follow-up in the form of 90 minute Zoom meetings once a week, and I saw through these meetings that additional follow-up support was provided to one chap in particular who needed it.

Sanctuary Lodge is a private facility and my stay there was expensive (for me, anyway, but reading Mumsnet I see people paying similar amounts for good holidays). A huge benefit was that as soon as I recognised I needed outside help and was ready to accept it, a place was available for me the following week. That gave me time enough to get my stuff together, explain what was happening to people who I wanted to know, but not long enough to talk myself out of it or persuade myself I wasn’t really ‘that bad’.

patchword · 31/07/2025 12:31

doglikescheeseontoast · 31/07/2025 09:15

Sorry to come back to this - I realised I recommended Sanctuary Lodge/UKAT, but didn’t say why 🤦🏼‍♀️

My issue was alcohol and I went for 28 days. There were people in there who had much longer stays, and a few had shorter stays. People there were experiencing many different types of addiction, many had more than one.

Within a couple of hours of being there I saw a doctor (this was standard) who established that I required a medical detox , so this was started that day and took 7 days. It didn’t mean a delay in therapy, that started alongside the detox.

From the minute we woke up to the minute we went to bed, our time was accounted for. We had group therapy, 1:1 therapy, organised downtime activities such as yoga, acupuncture, and scheduled free time to prepare written work. Phone/internet use was limited to about an hour à day, and by the time we had queued up to be given our devices it was more like 50 minutes. There was a basic onsite gym, with closely monitored use.

The food was excellent. I was one of the people who had stopped eating pretty much anything substantial or healthy because of the level of my addiction, and I rediscovered the joy of good food. We were not given much in the way of sweet things, and the good provided was healthy, varied and plentiful.

SL did follow a 12 step approach, but in a very basic way - the 12 steps in their recognised format are quite wordy, but break it down and Step 1 is basically to admit you’ve got a problem, Step 2 is to recognise you can’t sort it out by yourself. In a typical 28 day stay, most people cover steps 1-3 in depth. Every evening we attended a Zoom meeting of AA, NA, CA, or had someone who had previously attended the rehab come to talk to us about their lives since leaving. I was invited back after about 2 years sobriety to give such a talk.

After I left rehab, there was one year follow-up in the form of 90 minute Zoom meetings once a week, and I saw through these meetings that additional follow-up support was provided to one chap in particular who needed it.

Sanctuary Lodge is a private facility and my stay there was expensive (for me, anyway, but reading Mumsnet I see people paying similar amounts for good holidays). A huge benefit was that as soon as I recognised I needed outside help and was ready to accept it, a place was available for me the following week. That gave me time enough to get my stuff together, explain what was happening to people who I wanted to know, but not long enough to talk myself out of it or persuade myself I wasn’t really ‘that bad’.

Thanks so much for adding this detail—this is really helpful to know. I'm so glad to hear of this positive experience—very encouraging to hear success stories. We think we have found a place for my family member to try elsewhere, but I will add this to my list of possible alternatives.

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dollparts85 · 11/08/2025 16:04

I went to a UKAT one, well two actually. Managed 5 days in first one then walked out & scored. Then sent to another in Luton. Liberty house.
Was life changing. They are 12 step. I now attend NA & am 9 months clean.
12 step isnt religous, its spirtual. I still dont believe in God. But in my opinon I couldnt stay clean without working a programme

dollparts85 · 11/08/2025 16:08

It included a year of Zoom calls as a check in once a week and lots of daily focus groups/ 1-2-1 theraphy and alternative approaches sound baths/ yoga etc.
I went for 6 weeks as needed detoxing ( herion user)

patchword · 11/08/2025 20:19

dollparts85 · 11/08/2025 16:08

It included a year of Zoom calls as a check in once a week and lots of daily focus groups/ 1-2-1 theraphy and alternative approaches sound baths/ yoga etc.
I went for 6 weeks as needed detoxing ( herion user)

Thanks so much for giving me this suggestion and being so open about your own experience. Glad to hear it's worked for you! My relative is going into residential rehab for three months soon (won't say where for privacy reasons) so I am hoping for the best.

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0ddsocks · 09/10/2025 13:17

Rehabs like the priory tend to offer only 4/5 weeks stay at max. He could do a 28day one and then go to ‘secondary’ for a few months afterwards to help him settle into his new ‘normal’ and do things like voluntary work.

I’ve been to both the priory in north London and Guildford. They are fine, food is good, therapy is reasonably skilled. But it is very ‘corporate’

I’m not sure if money is an issue or not. If not there is a great place called ‘cottonwood de tucson’ in Arizona

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