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How can I help if she won’t talk to me

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Friendforlife · 15/06/2025 10:58

I’m almost certain that my ex-wife is self-medicating with prescription drugs. We recently separated, but we’re still living under the same roof for now. In the lead-up to our separation, her behaviour became increasingly erratic/extreme mood swings, sneaking around the house at odd hours, and moments where she seemed completely spaced out. It reminded me of the way some friends looked and acted before they tragically passed away from mixing prescription medications.

What worries me even more is that she’s been spending time with a group of guys who are, frankly, complete losers — men who have no direction in life and openly take things like sleeping tablets recreationally. I’m afraid they’re influencing her in dangerous ways. I don’t want to see her throw her life away because of the company she keeps. And even worse, I’m terrified that one day our kids might find her unconscious or worse. That’s a trauma no child should ever experience.

I’m deeply concerned for her well-being and want to help her, even though we’re going our separate ways soon. The problem is, she won’t admit to anything.

So my question is: how can I find out for sure if she’s using prescription drugs to self-medicate, especially if she refuses to acknowledge it?

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RegimentalSturgeon · 15/06/2025 11:02

More AI shite….
No one would say ‘before they tragically passed away from mixing prescription medications.’ And what weird bad luck to have more than one friend to whom it happened.

Friendforlife · 15/06/2025 11:04

Thanks for the advice , great help!

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InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 15/06/2025 11:08

Even if you knew for sure, your options are quite limited when it comes to attempting to change her behaviours. Are you thinking of telling social services your concerns re your children?

Friendforlife · 15/06/2025 11:14

I’m hoping I can help her without going to social services, but I need to protect our children especially when we go our separate ways

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SailingWonder · 21/07/2025 01:59

Taking sleeping pills, recreationally? Is that even a thing?

MrsTerryPratchett · 21/07/2025 02:28

Where are you where multiple friends and family members are self-medicating and dying? The US, maybe.

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