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I have been on before. Hard to stop cocaine use and it is ruining our lives.
i am going to a SMART meeting tmw while off work - I hate it when I’m doing it, my husband turns into a horrible person too. We are both sick of it and the shame is killing me.
i know every in theory and do a lot of reflection and never again thoughts but it is so hard.
as I say just looking for support - not judgement- I do that myself I promise

Are you both addicts? Is he getting any support?

Hiya. My lovely best friend and her husband were at this stage 2 years ago. She hid it from me. Then one day she admitted it. She had to work on herself. Which was therapy and the gym for her. The husband took longer but he's also now at the gym. They are good people. They'd had alot of stuff in their lives. But they have a son and he had noticed his mums eyes one day he was around 8 at the time. I'm not sure what will motivate you to stop and change. But I hope you can do it. My now ex is an addict. His addiction have ruined our relationship and his life now is terrible. He's got nothing.

Both have an issue with it but both on the same page that no positives from it and destroying mental health/relationships. We are planning activities for the weekend so we are busy/away from contacts. Plus both keen to engage with counselling 1-1. I am also giving smart a proper go. I just can’t do it anymore. I have to keep reminding myself I’m at work Monday-Friday and can cope without using so bring that in to Friday/Saturday. It’s such a tough one mentally as I’ve always been resilient and strong minded so this is hard to cope with. I know my brain is wired differently with using so I am mindful of that. One week at a time with clear plans and goals to make this work. Thx for replying x

One day at a time.

Sometimes addicts say that they wish they'd never started.

And you can actually use that to help yourself.

If you had never taken cocaine, but knew that you would be where you are right now. If someone offered it you'd say no.

To all intents and purposes you are now in that position. Instead of saying I'm stopping and I'm never taking it again, perhaps you can say to yourself that the point is not to start. I've stopped. I don't take cocaine, why would I start?

You've already stopped. The point is not to start.

Thank you, good way to look at it and will think about that if craving anything. Much appreciated x

OP well done for identifying you want to stop and for seeking help. That in itself takes courage.

Psychological addiction is tough because it becomes a mental battle in the line of thinking not to do it/do it.
Obvious one's avoid any triggers that result in use.
Withdraw from other user's and situations where the drug is available.
I'm an ex user of amphetamine I used for 20+years.
Good luck op hope you both crack it.

How are you doing?
Thinking of you.
If you started again, we're here to support you.

Been almost 3 weeks since I used cocaine. Feeling better for it already, the cravings are still there but not as intense now or as hard to deal with as I thought! Usually a Friday after work is a trigger for me but putting strategies in place to help. Off out tmw for the day with family in the sunshine. One day at a time tho and keep setting goals for myself😀😀