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He is still gambling

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Kylie10987 · 01/01/2025 08:37

So partner of 5 years has always been gamberling but I didn't know how bad it was until he lost my 10 grand (took it without my concent) and his own 10 grand.

I kicked him out and he got help from gamcare and he stopped. Now, I've noticed he's playing "little raffles" as he calls them online and he says it isn't a problem?!

We live in a 1 bedroom flat because he's done nothing but Promise me we will move out but, everytime he messes up with money.

Altogether he has gambled over 30 grand.

During the christmas period, he also stayed up until 3am playing video games and and then was too tired to function all day. This, I think is also apart of him relapsing again as he acted like this last time.

I keep going back as I keep thinking he'll be that person I wanted him to be eventually but, I'm kidding myself and I need to move on for the sake of me and my daughter (she's 3 and a half)

He's 35 and he works away Monday to Friday in London, he's on good money but has nothing to show for it as he can't handle money.
I'm 33, I work part time and I'm in a position where I can financially live without him, it just meaning I won't be able to leave the 1 beded flat sooner Than I wanted.

Please give me advice on living with a gamberler? If he's having a go on little raffles, does he really want to stop?
Why do we think they'll change?

(Sorry about spelling mistakes/ grammar- I'm writing through tears as im so angry / upset with him)

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TwilightSkies · 01/01/2025 08:40

He’s still gambling, still addicted. Sounds like you’ve given him enough chances already.

Bookaholic73 · 01/01/2025 08:40

Sorry but yes your suspicions are correct, he is gambling again.
My ‘D’ H is the same, and I’m currently saving up to leave him.
Heres the thing, they won’t change. And his poor money decisions and gambling has already had an effect on your life.
My advice? Leave asap, before you get bailiffs knocking at your door (something I never thought I’d have to deal with, but he ran up a lot of gambling debt).

Kylie10987 · 01/01/2025 09:04

@Bookaholic73 so sorry you're going through this too.
I think we love them that much that we hope they'll love us enough to stop what's destroying us, but they won't. The thought of leaving hurts but, the thought of him leaving us homeless hurts more. Sending hugs x

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TwilightAb · 27/03/2025 10:50

Online raffles are still very much gambling and a rising problem. You do know that gamcare can offer support to you as well to help you to deal with this and give supportive advise?

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