Recovery

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I have been on before and spoken about the difficulty stopping and I don’t enjoy.

my husband and I just made the decision to stop, I did some self help worksheets on smart recovery and we had 2 weekends of not using and it was great and I felt good about myself.

i have now had a cancer scare and this triggered using.I have again done so tgis weekend too.

back on the recovery journey now but I just feel a failure after getting through 2 weeks without using and it was hard at times.

Just think of it as a false start and get back on the horsie! 🙂 I stopped for over 5 years, then fell back into it... and I had been feeling so much better off it, and it's much easier not to have the constant struggle...

So after two glasses last night which made me feel gruesome, I'm 'setting the clock back' on GMT and going back to sober! Let's do this! 😄💪

You’re not a failure. Pick yourself back up and start again. The cancer scare must have been difficult.

Thank you for your post. I feel like we can do it and the first weekend was actually ok but struggled 2nd weekend. We couldn’t get it or prob would have caved. New week, new start. Important thing both on same page - my husband and I.
good luck in your journey 🤞🤞

It is, still waiting on biopsy on Tuesday. Scary but gives me a focus this week. Thx for reply x

I don’t mean to be rude but you and your husband have to be 100% on the same page otherwise it will just keep happening - one will excuse the other and you’ll both cave in.

If you haven’t yet, I recommend listening to the Class A podcast - it’s very focused on ADHD coupled with addiction but she gives plenty of good resources as well. Cocaine is also highly environmental, the only reason you get a hold of it is because you’re hanging around people and places where it’s normalised. Cut them out.

I didn’t use for 2 weeks but did this weekend. Back in the guilt and shame cycle. What is wrong with us, I know what we need to do.

i am scared the police are going to come to my house, who wants to live like this in paranoia. We are users only, is this likely?

Can be but we both hate it. On same page but struggling with cravings. We feel great when we don’t use

If you can’t stop, you need professional. You’re gonna be coming back to this thread every two weeks or so.

You're not going to stop unless he does and vice versa. Are you using just on your own or with others? If so you need to stop seeing them.

I really hope your results are ok.

My husband is more motivated than me if I’m honest.

Then what are you looking for here exactly?

One thing for sure is: no one can make you stop except yourself. I learned this the hard way with my partner.