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To be worried about a friend’s drug use

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Schnauzer21 · 03/08/2024 18:22

I have a friend who has always dabbled in weed. It caused issues in her last marriage - i have no idea how much she smoked then, just that her ex hated it. She had a messy divorce and lived with her parents for a bit. Then met her current partner. He’s heavily into weed and since meeting him several years ago her weed smoking has gone up (He spends about £800 a week on it - is that normal? No idea)

Now it’s none my business what she does as long as she’s happy, but, I am concerned. Every time I speak to her on video call she is smoking a joint. She has lost a significant amount of weight and is skeletal, complaining about being nauseous all the time. Ive urged her to get bloods done etc and all have come back from the docs ok. Her personality seems different, she is quite paranoid and worries a lot.

Other friends have backed away saying she’s smoking too much weed and has changed.

I'm worried her weed use and suspect it might be a lot heavier than she lets on.

She has hinted at having a dependence on weed, and mostly spends time with people who smoke weed heavily. i wanted to ask if anyone has any knowledge of this. Is it normal to lose weight on weed and to be nauseous?
Are these signs of addiction? Can you get addicted to weed?

TIA

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Strawberriesandpimms · 03/08/2024 18:53

She doesn't sound well at all if she's self medicating her problems with drugs, and I bet the GP blood test results were a fib if she looks that bad.

How is she funding the drugs - is she still able to work? Is he working or does she fund him? Sadly she might have to hit rock bottom before she realises she needs or wants help. Is there someone you know that lives nearer to her?

We've experienced this with a close friend and it's just heartbreaking and a very slow process of recovery.

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Schnauzer21 · 03/08/2024 18:54

Shoeboxcat · 03/08/2024 18:44

I'm not sure one person (or even two!) could physically smoke £800 worth of weed in a week OP, there aren't enough hours in the day! I would be wondering about cocaine tbh, especially with your friend's weight loss. The heaviest smokers I know still only use maybe an ounce a week which would be around £150-200 (depending on quality and location) so £800 just on weed seems highly unlikely to me.

Ah ok so that’s quite heavy use - I have no idea about these things. Wow really? I didn’t think about other drugs being involved I hope that’s not the case

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Schnauzer21 · 03/08/2024 18:59

Strawberriesandpimms · 03/08/2024 18:53

She doesn't sound well at all if she's self medicating her problems with drugs, and I bet the GP blood test results were a fib if she looks that bad.

How is she funding the drugs - is she still able to work? Is he working or does she fund him? Sadly she might have to hit rock bottom before she realises she needs or wants help. Is there someone you know that lives nearer to her?

We've experienced this with a close friend and it's just heartbreaking and a very slow process of recovery.

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Yes that’s a possibility. She is working in quite a responsible job with lots of work in the community too. He’s working too. They seem very happy together - it’s just the weed.

I’m going to ask around to see if any of her closer friends that have distanced themselves from her know more.

thanks

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IDontHateRainbows · 03/08/2024 19:00

Schnauzer21 · 03/08/2024 18:22

I have a friend who has always dabbled in weed. It caused issues in her last marriage - i have no idea how much she smoked then, just that her ex hated it. She had a messy divorce and lived with her parents for a bit. Then met her current partner. He’s heavily into weed and since meeting him several years ago her weed smoking has gone up (He spends about £800 a week on it - is that normal? No idea)

Now it’s none my business what she does as long as she’s happy, but, I am concerned. Every time I speak to her on video call she is smoking a joint. She has lost a significant amount of weight and is skeletal, complaining about being nauseous all the time. Ive urged her to get bloods done etc and all have come back from the docs ok. Her personality seems different, she is quite paranoid and worries a lot.

Other friends have backed away saying she’s smoking too much weed and has changed.

I'm worried her weed use and suspect it might be a lot heavier than she lets on.

She has hinted at having a dependence on weed, and mostly spends time with people who smoke weed heavily. i wanted to ask if anyone has any knowledge of this. Is it normal to lose weight on weed and to be nauseous?
Are these signs of addiction? Can you get addicted to weed?

TIA

Doesn't sound like weed tbh if he's spending 800 pounds a week on it.
Think it's more likely to be class As
With the paranoia and weight loss maybe coke.
Doesn't mean she isn't smoking weed on top but I'd be surprised if it's just that.

tippitytop · 03/08/2024 19:10

Yes, you can become addicted to weed, plus there’s a specific condition associated with excessive weed use called Cannabinoid hyperemesis syndrome that leads to repeated bouts of nausea ,abdo pain and vomiting . If left untreated it can cause severe problems. whatever the cause, you have noticed she is not the same person anymore and looks unwell….as a friend if you feel able to tell her what you’ve noticed, express your concern but remain calm and open to her confiding in you. It doesn’t sound as if it’s going to end well if she co to use down this path.

despiteappearance · 03/08/2024 19:11

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Schnauzer21 · 03/08/2024 19:15

tippitytop · 03/08/2024 19:10

Yes, you can become addicted to weed, plus there’s a specific condition associated with excessive weed use called Cannabinoid hyperemesis syndrome that leads to repeated bouts of nausea ,abdo pain and vomiting . If left untreated it can cause severe problems. whatever the cause, you have noticed she is not the same person anymore and looks unwell….as a friend if you feel able to tell her what you’ve noticed, express your concern but remain calm and open to her confiding in you. It doesn’t sound as if it’s going to end well if she co to use down this path.

thank you. I have mentioned her appearance and she says it’s just stress. Yet she has remained the same weight for years now. I will mention her personality changes too - i get the feeling she will cut me out though as she doesnt want to hear it.

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despiteappearance · 03/08/2024 19:19

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BobbyBiscuits · 03/08/2024 19:32

That's 112 grams of weed roughly a week. Which seems like a lot. I smoke weed every day, all day and would smoke about a gram or two a day.
No wonder they've got problems.

BoxofLego · 04/08/2024 18:47

800 pounds a week? Either someone’s lying or being seriously ripped off. I live in the US in a state where marijuana is legal for recreational and medical use. Our local dispensary sells an ounce for $160. $180 for a nicer quality. That’s pretty much a normal price for it. My biggest concern here is that if it genuinely is 800 a week then your friend is being exploited.

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