How do I get my mum to stop drinking?

[TheTealStork]

My mum is turning 50 this year. However she has been drinking for as long as i can remember. My dad has constantly tried to get her off drinking but nothing has worked. I don't like talking to her when she is drunk. I feel like she has become more aggressive ever since. Especialy when I try to talk to her about it.

I'm so sorry for you in this situation, I've been through it myself with my parents. My mum doesn't drink anymore, not by choice, unfortunately her health has been irrevocably ruined by it and she's in a care home at a young (ish) age. And yet my dad still drinks.
If your mum is getting aggressive when you talk to her about it then it sounds like deep down she knows she has a problem and is feeling defensive rather than dealing with it.
The reality is you can't help her unless she wants to be helped. Don't give up though, hopefully the time will come and it won't be too late for her. She is lucky to have you and your dad there to support her when she is ready.
When my mum was drinking she had a health scare directly related to alcohol that meant healthcare professionals were involved and they managed to get her into a detox program. Sometimes it takes an outsider to impress on the person the reality of the situation.
Sadly my mum only stayed sober a couple of years before relapsing.
I hope things change for you all, be there for her but ultimately you can't be responsible for 'fixing' her if she doesn't want it.

As Kitkatnatnat said, you can’t fix your mum and you can’t stop her drinking. The best thing you can do is join Al-Anon and look after yourself.
The mantra is:
You didn’t cause it
You can’t control it
You can’t cure it
An alcoholic only stops drinking and gets help when they want to and this is usually when they hit rock bottom. It has to be said that rock bottom is further down than you could possibly imagine. I saw someone there and it wasn’t pretty. They were only a few days away from dying. Also, they can’t stop drinking and go cold turkey but need to stop gradually or they will start to have fits.
I’m sorry you have this to deal with and I wish I could offer you more positive suggestions. As I said at the beginning, look after yourself and your family.

As the daughter of alcoholics, you can't make them stop drinking.
It has to be their choice and something they want to do for themselves.
My dad passed from heart related issues. Tried to get him help for years. He didn't want to.
My mum has severe health issues due to drinking, went to rehab many times, relapsed and now doesn't drink because she simply can't.
It's a horrible thing addiction, I hope you have a good support system.

My brother was an drug addict and then an alcoholic. We tried it all as a family and believe me, unless the person wants it, it doesn't happen. Damage to the body causes issues with behaviour, so that could be something that will become more noticeable. We came to terms with the fact that it was his life and we lived ours and that sadly he lost out on so very much because of his choices and we simply stopped nagging and lived our lives with him not in it! Not your fault, not your life, not anything you can fix, but please don't let it be your burden and ruin your life too. I grieved for my brother long before he died, as the person he once was really disappeared decades previously.

How old are you? Do you live with her?

Because the best thing to do for you, if you don't like to talk to her when she's drinking, is leave when she starts. No comments, no blame, no anything. Just get up and walk out.

Obviously if you're 14 and live with her, that answer won't help.

Substitution - instead of drinking substitute the craving with somethin else.
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Instead of drinking, put this in the mouth