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Partner smokes weed/ tobacco/vapes

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babycakes30 · 12/06/2024 18:56

I am a non smoker on the other hand my partner has always been a smoker since we met, which includes tobacco and the use of weed, this has never been a problem to me as it would be very so often,

We now have a 15 month old baby, he still smokes, if not more, whether that is down to stress or just his excuse for his addiction. I am unsure.
This is the same with him smoking weed, I have mentioned to him previously about the amount he smokes, as he is always in and out the house going for a smoke which is frustrating, because of this he has now started vaping, which was meant to help him smoke less, if anything I feel he is smoking more as now he seems to think it's ok to vape inside the house/room whilst in company with our baby, he believes that the smoke from the vape evaporates quickly and disappears, I have mentioned that it is still second hand smoke and is still harmful, from our conversation he has started vaping near an open window or puts his head out the car window, I still do not like this-I still believe smoke can enter the room and I would rather not take the risk.

His weed habits are getting to me also, he will not smoke weed near our baby, but he will still get high from having the joint, I tell him I don't want you high around our baby, he says that it's only a small joint, however will have a few throughout the day, plus he takes it for his mood and helps calm him, I will still disagree with because he is not fully sober from having a joint and the smoke will still be on his clothes/ and just genuinely being high from the joint, his excuse is also that you can't even tell when I'm high, but he is not getting my point.

Now that my partner is vaping l, I feel he is also smoking more due to him not going out every 10 mins or so he will be vaping inbetween smokes then still going for a smoke on top of weed and then an odd occasion can/bottle of beer, I know at the end of the week he wants to chill out and relax however it stresses me out regards to his smoking and our baby's health.

OP posts:
Xyz1234567 · 12/06/2024 22:04

My husband's a smoker. I wouldn't let anyone smoke anything inside my house ever. It's no help to you but I've been married a long time and if I could go back, I would never, ever , ever had married him because of this disgusting habit. I thought at the time I could persuade him to stop but no chance. It repulses me.

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