Friends ex partner has severe alcohol addiction. This all started with some unfortunate life events just after they’d had a child, so he hasn’t been a constant in child’s life as friend ended the relationship due to the addiction.
He doesn’t seem able to get out of it fully but goes through cycles of sobriety and binge drinking.
Does anyone have any advice on how my friend should/could deal with this regarding access to child who is now 5 years old. Child knows and loves him and he wants to see child when sober but friend is worried about lack of consistency as he has dipped in and out of child’s life and not been able to provide anything financially. She is in a place where she feels she has to decide between cutting him off until he’s 100% sober for a significant period of time, or allowing the sporadic supervised access during times of sobriety. Most people (family and friends) feel it has to be the former, but her concern is that the child asks for dad and she doesn’t want to be the one blocking a relationship then the child is affected and resents her in the future.