I'm just looking to see if anybody has been the partner of someone who is addicted to cannabis and can help me.
My husband has smoked weed for years, before we had kids it was quite a lot however he's always had a great job and it hasn't affected our life. Once we had kids he cut down a lot but didn't stop. Occasionally he would say he wants a break and he would go a few weeks without it. The past few years this has become harder to do. Almost every time he says he wants a break he doesn't stop. He says he wants to but he just can't seem to do It. At the start he wouldn't admit it was a problem but now he has.
The problem I have is, each time he has a "break" to prove to himself that he isn't addicted, he becomes nasty he becomes incredibly agitated. He spends less time at home because he says he can't stop when he's around me and the kids because of the stress. I've done this countless times and this time I said to him either you cut down and carry on or you stop and stop for good because I can't keep being the target when he's stopping for his emotional abuse.
Today he's gone absolutely insane at me because I was home a few minutes later than I said I would be. He called to see where I was and I told him I was 2 minutes away and he started yelling on the phone so I ended the call. Now he's said he's going out and won't tell me where. Says it's none of my business.
I don't know how much more I can take. What if we're still stuck in this quitting cycle in years to come. He's also become paranoid and his moods are extremely up and down I don't know what type of person I'll be waking up to one day to the next.
I love him with all my heart but I don't know when to say enough is enough. I know people hurt those closest to them when they are trying to stop using a substance but we have 3 children who I am taking care of 99.9% of the time and it is so hard to keep myself together when he's being awful to me.
He knows he needs to stop and he's doing well this time but I can't help but think all this abuse will be for nothing when he starts again and in a few months time I'll be in this position yet again.
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