My husband is a high-functioning addict. He drinks every single day. 2 bottles of wine a night or 10-12 cans of larger, sometimes whiskey and/or gin on top of that, other times just a bottle of whiskey. He can hold his drink very well, and if someone didn't know him, they wouldn't have a clue.
I don't drink at all, not even on special occasions/birthdays etc. His alcohol use has always been a problem for me, although when we met at University over 30 years ago, I would match him drink for drink, but that changed as I matured.
Last night we argued because he told me he had come to an end of doing dry January. His dry January was zero % alcohol larger every day, with whiskey on top. To me, there is nothing dry about his January, but I got severely criticised for not being supportive of his attempts and for always looking for the worst when I pointed out that whiskey isn't zero % alcohol. He felt I should be celebrating his choice to drink alcohol-free larger. But besides that, I found evidence of him using powdered drugs a few weeks ago. I've always known he has a tendency towards substances, but I thought that was over, considering we have teenage children and he runs a successful company which comes with many responsibilities. When I confronted him with the paper wrap I'd found, which had remnants of white powder, he told me a long story about how I should be congratulating him (really!!!!!) for being an occasional user and that he had a serious problem a few years back, which he concealed from me, so he had done very well to cut down his use. I always had my suspicions, but before, I never had the evidence, and if I asked him, he denied it. I feel betrayed and like I'm in a bind. Despite him being the one creating problems in the relationship, he turns it around to make out I'm the problem! I'm fed up with it. Please tell me I'm not going mad.