Partners cocaine addiction

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My partner has walked out on me and his 6 month old daughter this week as i have been trying to get him off cocaine for over a year with nothing working i went and confided in his mum and dad . He said he doesnt know if he loves me any more as iv caused so much trouble for him ( hes 35) as his family have gone mad . Hes asking for set days to see our daughter saying its finished for good and going even more mad when im saying no. Its a weekend addiction as he stil goes to work monday - friday and just about functions however is moody and up and down throughout the week . The last straw was him minding our son whilst i was out for the night and promising he wouldnt drink only to have a lot of cocaine delivered, he sneaks around the house every weekend pretending to go the bathroom and will wait until im asleep and get up and feed his addiction all night then leaving me to sort the baby the rest if the weekend . Im so sad hes making me doubt seeking help from his parents now and i feel like he hates me .

So sorry, I have been you.

Turning you into the bad guy is classic/ standard behavior. It’s hell.

leave him he'll never change. doing coke in the house is a very bad addiction.

You can't save him, so concentrate on your self and child.

Don’t worry
just wait for him to apply for contact and ask for drug tests

he went pass and he won’t get contact

just live without him
he’s a lost cause

having the drugs delivered is the hugest issue
do you know he’s paid? he could be putting you in great danger of any of this cocaine is on credit

I’d also move house

seriously

He doesn't hate you OP, because he'd have to care about you for that, and he only cares about drugs, because he's an addict.

Stop trying to help him. Stop trying to facilitate a relationship with your child. Document everything and let him take you to court if he wants to see the kid.

As painful as it is now, him leaving will be the best thing for you in the long run, I promise. He will never change his behaviour and you probably don't even know the true extent of his addiction.

Cocaine addicts are selfish, lying, manipulative people who care about nothing more than getting their next bag.

You did nothing wrong in going to his parents - as a previous poster says, turning you into the bad guy is textbook addict behaviour. Stay strong and focus on how much better your life will be without someone who lies, lets you down, wastes huge amounts of money, is bad tempered on comedowns and blames you for everything living in your house. Honestly, it WILL be better.

So agree with PPs. I wasted 10 years trying to fix my ex, pick him up, save him, heal him, cushion him, protect him. Was really hard to say enough is enough. Would it be my fault if he died?! Will the children hate me for breaking up the family!?

Honestly with 5 years of clarity since I asked him to leave, my life is so much better. I still have to deal with the twat but I am detached and sheltered from the crushing blows and the horrible incapacitating panic and pain.

I did the same, called his parents and told them everything, but I waited until it was so bad he was in a coma and had no choice. I wish I had let people in sooner.