Is my partner taking drugs. Advice needed!

[GreenTiny22]

Hi guys. My first post here so bare with me, but I'm quite concerned and need opinions.

My partner tends to grind his teeth and clench his jaw (classic signs of someone on drugs) when we are having nights out or most times we are drinking. It doesnt happen every time but it has happened a lot.

Even my father noticed recently and questioned me on it.

He tells me it happens when he drinks alcohol and he's sick of people accusing him of taking drugs.

I trust him and I really don't want to think he would be taking drugs. Thoughts?

Gurning is a bit of a classic. ExH used to do it and yes, it was ALWAYS coke.

But are there any other signs?

If I'm really honest I haven't been a round drugs most of my life so I don't know any other signs? Help lol

I know his friends take coke. Maybe I'm just stupid but he convinces me every time it's the alcohol

Talks a lot about himself, up very late, doesn't eat a lot, arrogant. That's at the time.

Then missing money, irritable at other times.

He is a bit secretive about his finances. I have noted a few times where he has mentioned he can't afford something and Ive asked how? And he said he has put his money in to savings

Sniffing, blowing nose, avoidance, routine and lying. A lot.

Nipping off (up to bedroom, out to car) can't sit still for a film, empty promises. This is my experience of ex on coke.

Could be MDMA.

Sorry - in addition to MrsPratchets post I should have said. Ex was up most nights until 4am when away from me (WhatsApp).

And trust your gut as to whatever has led you to think this way - you are probably right. Denial and lies are natural and they can make you think that it's in your head.

@IronNeonClasp

Sorry - in addition to MrsPratchets post I should have said. Ex was up most nights until 4am when away from me (WhatsApp).

Oh yes, that is a classic. Up late when the cats away!

Did you move on ok MrsP? I am struggling I think he damaged me with the deceit more than I realise

I gurn when I drink a lot. It’s so annoying. My poor jaw

For me, the most obvious sign of a drug user is when they fall asleep. On a night out if they fall asleep on the train or as soon as they get home, it’s unlikely. If they wanna watch a film or whatever - drugs.

Falling asleep? After gurning? Wish that happened to me in my youth!

Does he have cold like symptoms? Probs coke, easily done in the loo, small amounts not many people will notice

Offer him some crisp next time. See what his reaction is

It happens to me just with alcohol. I can promise you I do not take drugs. Alcohol makes me do this.

@jelly79

Offer him some crisp next time. See what his reaction is

What's? Will a bag of Salt & Vinegar suss him out????

What d'ya mean?

Nasty mood swings. Hardly sleeping. Over sexed. Boring and over opinionated.

It could just be alcohol. Gurning is mainly from
MDMA and it would be really obvious If he was on that!
If you're worried about coke check for bags in his Wallet or jeans pocket whilst he's still asleep.
Does he sniff a lot then seem bunged up in the morning ? Blow his nose a lot the morning after?
Check loo seat and cistern for powder rresidue when he's been in there.

Did you move on ok MrsP? I am struggling I think he damaged me with the deceit more than I realise

@IronNeonClasp it wasn't fantastic. I wish MN had been here because I used to say to him, "go out in the street and ask literally anyone if this is OK, the first person you see, and they will tell you it's not". But I didn't actually believe that so I stayed too long.

But I'm great now. It probably took a few years. I thought I was OK before I was OK.

@XmasBelle if he is taking coke or MDMA eating crisp (or most food) will be difficult. His reaction may tell her the story

(Not a fool proof method obvs)

@jelly79 is correct, if you're a bit pissed, a salt and vinegar crisp is the most delicious thing on God's Green Earth.

If it's MDMA or Coke, it'll be a sour, sickening, shard of unswallowable tree bark.

Colombian cold the next day after going out. It’s the bloody worst and never bloody worth it. Shit sleeping, constantly sniffing, eating ya jaw, non stop talking, high sex drive, eyes the size of snooker balls. Yup all the reasons I don’t do it anymore.