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Today is the day.

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WhatInFreshHell · 04/12/2020 10:49

Today is the day! I need to tell someone, because I'm going need a lot of support over the next few weeks, and maybe this will be a good place for me to vent, almost like a diary. Perhaps there will be others who have been through this.I'm pretty ashamed about it, in all honesty.

Basically, I'm addicted to codeine. It started a couple of years ago, I was taken to hospital in an ambulance with an ovarian torsion. It was hideously painful and I had to be given morphine via a drip. I was in hospital for 3 days off my face on painkillers.

When I was discharged, I was given an extremely large box of Cocodamol 30mg/500mg on a repeat prescription. I was taking them for a long time, and I suddenly realised that I was taking them for the high feeling, because I wasn't actually in pain anymore.

After a while this prescription was obviously stopped. By this point I was quite evidently addicted to the codeine and how it made me feel. I felt relaxed, happy and floaty, if that makes sense.

Before this, my EXH had an affair, we divorced. I quickly met someone else, who was the absolute love of my life however I think it was a case of 'right person, wrong time' All of this will have contributed to the codeine misuse, no doubt.

Anyway, so I started buying and taking over the counter Cocodamol in the smaller strength. After a while, I built up a tolerance to these, so had to start buying the stronger strength.

I'm now at the point where there is nothing stronger I can buy over the counter, and I'm taking extremely large amounts of codeine combined with paracetamol and ibuprofen each day...probably enough to kill me eventually.

The other night, I was mucking around with my DS6 and i told him i didn't know what i would do without him. He said he would be ever so sad without me, and I'm his favourite person ever, he hope's I never die. This really hit home...I don't want to die, I dont want to leave him...and if I carry on this way, that's what's going to happen. I cant do that to him, and I wont.

So, yesterday, I've decided it's going to stop. In a normal day, I would have taken upwards of 32 tablets...right now, I've only taken 8 so far since yesterday. I need to taper the amount as slowly as I can, to try and keep the withdrawal symptoms at bay...although, it's not going to be pretty. It's going to make me poorly and depressed, achy, shakey, and emotional...but I've got to do it...although it should only take 5 days at the most, the worst will be day 3...once I get to the point where I'm feeling okay on a regular dose of 8/500 as per the instructions on the packet, then I'll be in the right place to start cutting them out altogether. I'm terrified, its going to be awful.

I've also contacted a charity in this morning via telephone , who will be able to help me taper safely, they'll be calling me to arrange an appointment. I feel like such an idiot and I'm so embarrassed, but I cant do it anymore. I wont leave my son without a Mother.

I've also told my best friend everything today. Shes been so supportive and wonderful.

I know how stupid I am, I dont need to be told, but this needs to stop now...and it will.

OP posts:
Dontpasstovardy · 04/12/2020 10:56

Jesus Christ op, 32 tablets!

I'm afraid it sounds like you need to be admitted to detox from these. I'm not sure it's safe to try and taper by yourself.

WhatInFreshHell · 04/12/2020 11:35

Thanks for your reply.

I have spoken to the addiction charity, who have been brilliant. I'll be contacted shortly to arrange a programme with them and support. The man I spoke to was very positive on the phone, and said that codeine is one of the quickest to taper.

I'm not frightened of not having the codeine anymore...I'm frightened of the withdrawal symptoms. I dont take the codeine to feel high anymore, because it doesnt happen. I take it because if I dont, it makes me poorly.

I dont know how I'm still alive...but I'm going to stay that way.

Thanks again for your reply.

OP posts:
Dontpasstovardy · 04/12/2020 21:48

Are you feeling ok today?

AllGongNoDinner · 04/12/2020 23:35

Hi op hope you’re ok today

TeaBanditTeej · 04/12/2020 23:38

@WhatInFreshHell

Today is the day! I need to tell someone, because I'm going need a lot of support over the next few weeks, and maybe this will be a good place for me to vent, almost like a diary. Perhaps there will be others who have been through this.I'm pretty ashamed about it, in all honesty.

Basically, I'm addicted to codeine. It started a couple of years ago, I was taken to hospital in an ambulance with an ovarian torsion. It was hideously painful and I had to be given morphine via a drip. I was in hospital for 3 days off my face on painkillers.

When I was discharged, I was given an extremely large box of Cocodamol 30mg/500mg on a repeat prescription. I was taking them for a long time, and I suddenly realised that I was taking them for the high feeling, because I wasn't actually in pain anymore.

After a while this prescription was obviously stopped. By this point I was quite evidently addicted to the codeine and how it made me feel. I felt relaxed, happy and floaty, if that makes sense.

Before this, my EXH had an affair, we divorced. I quickly met someone else, who was the absolute love of my life however I think it was a case of 'right person, wrong time' All of this will have contributed to the codeine misuse, no doubt.

Anyway, so I started buying and taking over the counter Cocodamol in the smaller strength. After a while, I built up a tolerance to these, so had to start buying the stronger strength.

I'm now at the point where there is nothing stronger I can buy over the counter, and I'm taking extremely large amounts of codeine combined with paracetamol and ibuprofen each day...probably enough to kill me eventually.

The other night, I was mucking around with my DS6 and i told him i didn't know what i would do without him. He said he would be ever so sad without me, and I'm his favourite person ever, he hope's I never die. This really hit home...I don't want to die, I dont want to leave him...and if I carry on this way, that's what's going to happen. I cant do that to him, and I wont.

So, yesterday, I've decided it's going to stop. In a normal day, I would have taken upwards of 32 tablets...right now, I've only taken 8 so far since yesterday. I need to taper the amount as slowly as I can, to try and keep the withdrawal symptoms at bay...although, it's not going to be pretty. It's going to make me poorly and depressed, achy, shakey, and emotional...but I've got to do it...although it should only take 5 days at the most, the worst will be day 3...once I get to the point where I'm feeling okay on a regular dose of 8/500 as per the instructions on the packet, then I'll be in the right place to start cutting them out altogether. I'm terrified, its going to be awful.

I've also contacted a charity in this morning via telephone , who will be able to help me taper safely, they'll be calling me to arrange an appointment. I feel like such an idiot and I'm so embarrassed, but I cant do it anymore. I wont leave my son without a Mother.

I've also told my best friend everything today. Shes been so supportive and wonderful.

I know how stupid I am, I dont need to be told, but this needs to stop now...and it will.

I'm sending you big hugs, you can do it.
WhatInFreshHell · 05/12/2020 05:05

Hello everyone.

Thank you for your replies!

Well, I'm actually not feeling too bad at all right now. Yesterday was an emotional day, I think mostly because I've admitted there's a problem and it'll take a little while for me to deal with that.

I feel so much more positive after speaking with the addiction charity. I was terrified of making the call, but the man I spoke to was fabulous. I feel so much better knowing I don't have to do this alone.

He advised me not to taper so drastically at this early stage, they have ways of tapering so my body will hardly notice what's happening. So until my call with the recovery team early next week, I need to take just enough to keep the withdrawal away. So yesterday, for example, over the course of the day, I took 6 x 8/500 Cocodamol and 6 x 12.5/500 Nurofen Plus. This is obviously a massive improvement from a few days ago. I've had The Shits, obviously, and a few tummy cramps along with the restless legs...but I can deal with all of those. I've been smoking quite a few cigarettes but maybe I'll tackle that addiction after I'm free from codeine.

I read a few stories yesterday online about how awful and slow a paracetamol overdose death can be... I dont want that to be me! I think I've sufficiently scared myself shitless in that regard...so wont be taking more than the recommended amount of paracetamol. I cant believe what I was doing...what a thick idiot.

The man from the addiction charity told me that what I've done is really brave. The hardest part is admitting the problem and asking for help, and I should be proud of myself.

They can also arrange various counselling etc which I think would be beneficial for me. I dont think I've ever fully dealt with the circumstances around my divorce, or healed from it. What I've been doing is essentially a form of self sabotage. Even though I'm much happier single and with my DS, my life is better now 100%, I dont think I deal with the sadness and rejection at the time...I'm very good at pushing unhelpful and upsetting feelings to the back of my mind, which isn't at all healthy! I should have known it would come back and bite me on the arse one day!

Thank you all for following this with me. There may also be someone else here who is going through the same as me, but hasn't yet made the call. Maybe this would help give them the confidence to ask for help. I was so so frightened to call the charity, but I'm so glad I did.

I'm at work for the majority of the weekend, so that'll keep me busy, I'll just be home tonight to sleep for a few hours before I go back! I love my job. My DS will be with his Dad until Sunday evening.

Thanks again to you all.

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Theworkwitch · 05/12/2020 05:25

Well done!! It sounds terrifying, but you can do this with a proper plan.

Fwiw I don't think you've been stupid, I think you're a victim. Be kinder to yourself now. Even just reading mumsnet, your story is very common. Good luck.

blankiesandunicorns · 05/12/2020 12:18

What a strong person you are, keep going OP. Hope you're ok

ParkheadParadise · 05/12/2020 12:23

Good luck @WhatInFreshHell
You can do this
Addiction is horrendous for all involved.

Wolfiefan · 05/12/2020 12:28

Also coming on to wish you the very best of luck OP. You’ve done an incredibly brave thing to admit the problem. You can beat this.

whiteflat48 · 05/12/2020 21:08

Good luck OP! You are definitely not stupid, you have the disease of addiction and you can get well, keep posting here and using your RL support

WhatInFreshHell · 05/12/2020 22:36

Thank you for all of your kind words and support.

I've really struggled today, felt like shit for most of the day however, I've been at work pretty much all day so have been keeping myself very busy and it was much easier to distract myself from feeling utterly vile!

Just the 12 taken today, the same as yesterday. Its not perfect, but it's a huge huge improvement, so I'm taking it as a win so far.

I'll feel much better once I've spoken with the recovery coordinator during the coming week...mostly so I know the plan, how it's going to work and when its going to start happening. I'm under no illusions that this is going to be easy, but I'm feeling so determined after how well I've done the last few days.

I'm in bed now, not sure how much sleep I'll get...my legs have a mind of their own, its relentless. Hopefully I can get some sort of sleep, back in work at 6am.

Thanks again for the wonderful support.

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Wolfiefan · 06/12/2020 12:30

Hope you managed some sleep. It’s great progress. Give yourself credit for the changes you’re making.

whiteflat48 · 06/12/2020 20:18

Yes echoing that too...you sound so determined...hope your day at work was a good distraction

Princessbanana · 13/12/2020 11:36

Hey @WhatInFreshHell, how are you doing? I’m trying to kick the habit myself and have done so before. Have you been given any further advice about coming down off them?💕

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