I have got really close to a man lately. He's amazing and I can't say I've ever clicked so Intensely with someone like this before. The feelings are mutual. He is consistent and reliable. He cares. He's always making sure I'm happy and ok. We have not slept together yet but we are very attracted to eachother. Most importantly though we can talk for hours. I honestly feel like he's the one for me. But!
He broke his back years ago. It's left him in chronic pain. He still works. He's a dad. He has animals. He's popular. He's kind. But he's basically always in pain.
5 months ago he ended up on hospital several times. Drink, weed and seizures. He took aload of pain killers and text his ex to say goodbye. She sent an ambulance and he was in hospital for three weeks but the pain in his daughters face stopped him there and then. He's 5 months clean of alcohol and has a controlled drug for the pain. He is back working full time.
He told me alot about it on Saturday when we went for a walk together. I didn't realise how bad it had been. But I understand how he got there. Hes depressed from loosing his mum several years ago. But the pain has tipped him over the edge and I also can imagine how being on agony can push you to your limit.
So anyway I did some research online which sounds weird. But I want to make sure I'm doing right by him. All I've seen is that you should not date for the first year. But he's been involved with me for weeks now. To the point we are very close. I'd say we are falling in love. I don't want to give him up. He's done nothing to make me want too. But according to facts he should be focusing on himself. Now I'm thinking what have I done? Have I ruined his chances of continuing forward? Also what if he thinks he needs me but I'm just this comfort?
What should I do?
I have kids too. So I can't gamble on things.
Should I carry on with him and support him? Or is this never going to end well? Thanks