My partner has always been a good time kinda guy. Very social and is one of the lads. Long story short he was drinking far too much not every day but binging at least 2 times a week and more when he didn’t have his kids this would always include cocaine maybe at least 2 bags.
Anyway he sought help after his life hit rock bottom and he has made big big changes he doesn’t do half of the stuff he use to in term of frequency but when he does have a ‘blip’ he will use cocaine and go out on a bender.
My issue is he can’t seem to see when he’s had enough. We have been to a family party this afternoon, had a meal and there was a free bar. My partner had sank 3 pints before the food came out and he was getting increasingly vocal after this point. He asked me if I wanted to take his kids back to their mums homes whilst he stayed. I said no stop prioritising your drinking over the kids. He’s now said he’s staying out for some beers with his brother in law and their partners - I’m not invited. I’ve come home.
I said to him I’m upset and concerned that he will start taking drugs (he has frequent drug tests at work) and he said he will try his very best to not do it which isn’t good enough for me. I said I’m not happy with him going. He’s had enough to drink already and the next step is going to be drugs I just know it.
Fast forward to now I’m at home, he’s out and I know he won’t be back for a good 5 hours and will come home coked off his head and will be telling all his family how I’m a nag and will not let him go for drinks with his family.
When sober he is never like this.
What should I do? I have a baby on the way due in a few weeks. I just want him to be like he is when he’s not been drinking because he turns into a selfish arsehole and even more so on a hangover when he knows he’s fucked up