Hi Just after a bit of advice.
I split with my ex around 3 months ago although the last 8 months of our relationship was very on and off. We never lived together or anything like that, was with him for about 2 years after splitting from my husband and father of my children.
Bit of background - when we met I knew he liked to drink but he's quite a bit younger than me so I just put it down to the younger lad lifestyle. He had a decent job which he was quite passionate about and we for a short while seemed good together. About a year into the relationship I realised his drinking was beyond normal (every night/ hiding it from people/ never knew when to stop) and it created some issues in our relationship. May I add that he was very rarely around my children but when he was he was always sober and really good with them. He was always more of "mummy's friend" than any parenting figure. Anyway he then lost his job due to choosing to go on benders with his mates rather than showing up to work. He could stop drinking for a week or 2 but then he'd go back to it and each time the "benders" got heavier and longer.
He then admitted to me that he had a problem and said he'd seek help but he never really fully committed to it. He'd go to an occasional AA meeting but then go on a bender again. This was around 10 months ago. After months and months of broken promises, manipulation and mind games I called it a day once and for all. He used me caring and my love as a weapon against me whenever he wanted to drink and pushed me to a point so I had to leave.
He'd often talked about killing himself but it always felt like a way of trying to make me stay rather than a serious threat.
Anyway I haven't seen him since February but we remained on speaking terms via text only. He's seeing a therapist, been put in anti depressants by the doc and seems to have thrown himself into the AA programme. He's constantly trying to use this as reasoning to get back together but quite frankly I don't want to.
He regularly sends me long winded deep and dark messages about how he wants to end his life and I'm just not sure how to handle them? I know he's suffering from depression but it almost seems as though he thinks I am the fix he needs but I know I'm not. I've reached a point now where I ignore most of the things he says but part of me thinks he's going to actually do something stupid one day.
Any advice?